Relationship Advice

Because i need to know because i am graduating soon and i need to make a decision asap and if you can also tell me how long it will take for a master in that program and a PhD too thanks a lot.

hi,first thanks for reading,i am a 39 year old lady with 4 big children ages 22,21,20.14 and a 12 yr old step daughter only the youngest 2 live with me.i met my husband in 2006 everything was great and in 2007 his then 9 year old daughter came to live with us everything continued to be ok,then in 2008 we decided to marry,we had a lovely wedding and catered for both families as i am a white lady and my hubby is a black man,after we married we decided we wanted try for a baby so we went to a private clinic and i had a sterilisation reversal done in may 2009,in july 2009 i had a ectopic pregnancy and one of my tubes removed,after this i noticed a change in my hubby and i found out he had been advertising himself on dating sites,when i confronted him he told me he never intended to go behind my back he just needed someone to talk to although i didnt believe him we madi it up.in october i got pregnant again but unfotuatly another ectpic and my other tube removed,at this stage i was gutted and felt a failure to my husband and was scared due to the last time it happened he went on dating sites,eventually we sat and talked and are supposed to be saving for ivf,my husband was made redundant last year in february and as found a new job this week,at the moment my 14 year old daughter is playing up at school and at home and today he sent me a text sayin that when my kid are naughty they get away with it but when his daughter is naughty she gets punished and he is sick of it,he also suggests that i buy my daughters clothes and sort her out and he will sort hisown daughter out,ever since his daughter came to live with me i have put up with hell,when she first come live with us it was because her mum disowned her for making a allergation to the police that wasnt true about her mum and her mums partner,then over the past couple of years shes been in trouble at school,theiving,telling continous lies.ive found my pictures in her bedroom ripped up when she carnt have her way but ive put up with all this and seen it through on my own and now shes calmed down her dad sees that only my child is the only problem. i feel so upset and dont know what to do when i ask him do you think we should get a divorce as we always arguing he tells me do whatever i want and thats the answer to most questions when i ask or he says its up to you,so then i forget i ever mentioned divorce,i feel stuck as i dont mix with anyone i just stay home and look after the kids ,cook and keep the house clean also my 5 year old grandaughter lives with me and as done for the past 15 months due to problemssi see myself as a good mum and all my hubby says is i need to change but i carnt see why or where all i can see is he is in the wrong,hes just a greedy selfish man.advice please xxx

ok the guy i like(he might like me back) talks to any other girl and my sister fine, but when it comes to me….hardly anything.
we had hardly talked before our 1st date. and then he asked me to homecoming. and we still barely talk. is it us being nervous? or is it that he doesnt like me like that? sometimes when my guy friends are being stupid and teasing me he will tell them to knock it off, but he looks at me sometimes, and most of the time it seems like he is kinda ignoring me. cuz when i am right there and so is my sister, he will say something to her, and I just stand there, but when he says something funny to my sister he looks at me. if anyone has any idea what this boy is thinking that would be great.
my best friend is his friend, and he talks to her more than me. he talks to every girl more than me. i think we wanna talk to each other we just dont know how. @ Homecoming the end of the last song he spun me out & spun me into this half hug where he put his arm around me

Like thats gonna make me love or like my husband? Besides to me marriage is just an ancient ritual thats mostly just a piece of paper that enslaves women to be a mans property.

He is not romantic, its not a b-day gift, Its a comming back gift since we dont live in the same country. We’ve been together for a really long time, about a year. I need ideas please. No perfumes, or romantic stuff.

Please answer ONLY if you have gone through marriage counseling. Did it work for you? Are you still married? What was your opinion?
(btw, I am just really curious about this topic, I am doing Pre-marital counseling, so this does not yet apply to me.)

ok the guy i like(he might like me back) talks to any other girl and my sister fine, but when it comes to me….hardly anything.
we had hardly talked before our 1st date. and then he asked me to homecoming. and we still barely talk. is it us being nervous? or is it that he doesnt like me like that? sometimes when my guy friends are being stupid and teasing me he will tell them to knock it off, but he looks at me sometimes, and most of the time it seems like he is kinda ignoring me. cuz when i am right there and so is my sister, he will say something to her, and I just stand there, but when he says something funny to my sister he looks at me. if anyone has any idea what this boy is thinking that would be great.
my best friend is his friend, and he talks to her more than me. he talks to every girl more than me. i think we wanna talk to each other we just dont know how. @ Homecoming the end of the last song he spun me out & spun me into this half hug where he put his arm around me

She’s 27, I’ve been wanting to tell her that I like her for a couple month’s but always chicken out. Her birthday is tommorrow and I am going to her birthday party.
I would like to give her something kind of romantic, but not something too creepy obviously. Does anyone have any good idea’s? If I can’t find anything my fall back will probably be a gift card, but I’d like to avoid that if possible. We are friends already, obviously since I’m going to her party. I will likely browse the mall for something unless I get a really good idea.
Thanks everyone

has not helped us like we thought it would. He’s been emotionally abusive in the past but it’s gotten better, but I’m weary to move forward and have kids with this man. He didn’t even spend Christmas with me this year. Has anyone else ever been in this situation - where you have a little hope left to mend things but don’t know if it’s worth it? What did you do?

Okay so in about a little over a month it will be my three year anniversary with my boyfriend..Im a senior and hes in his second year of college so hes just going to be coming up for a night to celebrate…So we both agree that we want our gifts to be something personal, not based on money…he usually does super good with my gifts, last year he had rose petals lead me to a vase of flowers and a neclace from zales with a letter….now I know hes planning something for this year but i still want to get him something romantic that comes from my heart…he likes football, the outdoors, me, ( lol ) and hes already got an ipod and things like that so any idea that includes that please dont write! But hmmm…yes i just need some ideas, hopefully it gets my brain flowing a bt! Thanks

I was considering going with my husband but I’m a little afraid to. Has anyone here ever been? And do they just try to blame one person on the martial prolbems or are they completely unbiased? Because I have a bad feeling they will try to blame me even though it’s not completely my fault what’s going on. Do they talk to the couple individually or just togehter? Does anyone know please give me some insite on what to expect.

Hi everyone, I’m a Y!A lurker but I finally decided to cave in & join
Basically, to introduce myself: I’m 21 yrs old & I’m about to graduate university in May. I plan on teaching ELA (English Language Arts) & will be certified at the grades 4-8 level. I don’t know if any of you know this but a good friend of mine & I (she’s female too) were discussing marriage in the Black community. She is a Business major & is going to Law school right afterwards, she is very career-oriented & I am very family-oriented.
I want to marry & have children, & she would rather adopt 1 child & travel the world. At the same time, she has more world experience than I do (she’s been all over). My parents are immigrants from Trinidad & are pretty traditional for the most part.
I’ve dated many guys before, & many of these guys haven’t been black. Not that that is a huge issue, but I have not yet had a serious relationship. It’s just that one of my biggest fears is being a part of that unmarried black woman statistic. I mean, I will be teaching, I’m very friendly, reserved (at first), love to have fun, & I’m a very simple girl. I’ve had men dangle money at me before but I refused taking money from them…
Can anyone offer any words of encouragement??
this is what I look like in case you were curious:http://i254.photobucket.com/albums/hh117…

My husbands birthday is coming up soon. Problem is we are so broke. I can’t afford anything expensive. So I was wondering if anyone had any gift ideas or romantic things to do that don’t cost much? Thanks!

So me and my girlfriend havnt been dating very long, just 3 weeks. We are suppose to exchange gifts this weekend, and I had a gift..but I found out she already has it. And at this point, I have absolutely no Idea what to get her..I dont want it to b romantic bcuz of how long we have been dating, just cute. The only thing that i could think of is a charm bracelet, but she dosnt seem to b a jewerly kinda girl..i really dont kno, and i need serious help..plz!

im trying to get back those romantic and physical feelings that my wife of 18yrs has lost in me. so im wondering do u get what u pay for? I have found pastors at local churches that have free classes. to dr. in marriage counseling that charge 250 dallors per session. any past counseling experiances good or bad my be helpfull

Yes, I am that desperate. I have been married for seven years. Not once, has he remembered our anniversary, my birthday, or anything. we have three kids, whom I love dearly and their the reason I stay. The oldest is 6 and my youngest is 15 months with a seizure disorder. He uses tells me “I only married you because you were pregnant.” The other day, I found the following searches, our city dates, our city companions, wells, nevada prostitutes. He says he just goes to look at the girls, but, it makes me not trust him.I have tried to get him into counsling to no avail. Problem is, he doesn want the responsibilitys of being married, just all the control. He is also an over hte roader if that matters. I just need any advice. I get back in his face, he walks out, I shut up and hes in my face. whats going on here??

I’ll have been with my boyfriend for about 2mths by the time Valentine’s Day comes round, we’re going out for dinner which is lovely, but it’s his ‘thing’ - obviously I want to get him something which is more romantic and sweet rather than really flashy and expensive, but i’m totally stuck. He’s 27 and is studying wine if that helps …
PS I’m already planning a night of hot sex in nice lingerie so that’s a given !

If my daughter couldn’t afford to pay for a counselor, of course I would.

my boyfriend and I are in are early 20’s, we have been dating for almost 2 months … he jokes about marriage a lot and once while we were on the couch said “so when are we getting married” he laughed and i laughed and made a wierd face …then he said ” i only said that cause i was thinking about my cousins wedding and it reminded me” …” he also said ” i want a girl first and then we can have a boy”
is he joking or serious …this has happened about 2 other times

I’ll have been with my boyfriend for about 2mths by the time Valentine’s Day comes round, we’re going out for dinner which is lovely, but it’s his ‘thing’ - obviously I want to get him something which is more romantic and sweet rather than really flashy and expensive, but i’m totally stuck. He’s 27 and is studying wine if that helps …
PS I’m already planning a night of hot sex in nice lingerie so that’s a given !

Would like to know where My husband and I can get free marriage counseling. city Downey, Ca.

My boyfriend is leaving for college in a few months and I really want to give him something he will remember. Something sweet and romantic. Please I need some serious ideas..
Thank you

I need help and some advice. My girfriend birthday tomorrow and I don’t have any money to buy her a birthday gift. Can anyone please help me give me some advice or some of your ideas about what to do for her birthday beside going out for a dinner and movie. I need something romantic. Please help.

This month marks the one year anniversary for me and my husband. However we seem to have hit rock bottom. At the begining of this year I found out I had PCOS. An infertility problem and we are working on. So not only is this stressing our relationship but my husbands job is a problem for me. He works 10 hour days so he’s gone from 7 am to 7- 7:30 sometimes even 8 pm. I work early mornings to I’m in bed by no later then 9:30. Recently I’ve become so mentally stressed out with dealing with my infertility and also him just not being here. He’s off every Sunday and one day durning the week that’s always changing. Recently I’ve been giving him the cold shoulder when he comes home because I’m sooo mad at him for working so late, I no. It’s beyond his controll but I just feel so much hate towards him for putting us through this. I’ve expessed my concerns and like always he’s sorry. He has a great job gets paid good, but we have no life! It’s gotten to the point were I just ignore him when he comes home because there’s nothing he can say or do that just won’t push me over the edge. So our days consist of seeing each other for an hour or so and no interaction or very minimal. He does make an effort to try and talk to me about it, but no matter what he says things will still be the same. I feel lonely most of the time, to witch he responds that he’s sorry. When we do talk about the time we get together we fight cuz he thinks I want him to quit his job. The only way he can cut his hours at work is if he drops to part time. That we can’t afford and isn’t even an option. I work full time also so I’m home by2:30pm everyday. It seems like my whole day is based around him coming home but when be does come home late, I’m furious, I don’t no whybut I guess I hope he’ll come home early. Am I over reacting? I’m taking a lot of medication right now that has deffinatly has a effect on my mood. I don’t want to be alone while I try and have kids. This is very difficult and emotional experience that I feel like I’m going through alone. I no I’m hard on him by ignoring him the little time I do see him but I want him to feel how I feel, alone and misserable. I no that’s selfish of me but I feel better in a strange way knowing that he feels what I feel everyday. What can I do to change things? I miss my husband so much but I feel like I can’t do anything to fix it. Please help me, any advice is welcomed, thanks.

51. While walking around the store, sing in your loudest voice
possible “sex and candy”
52. Try putting different pairs of women’s panties on your
head and walk around the store casually.
53. Leave small sacrifices or gifts in the hands of the
mannequins.
54. Nonchalantly “test” the brushes and combs in Cosmetics.
55. When two or three people are walking ahead of you, run
between them, yelling, “Red Rover!”
56. Look right into the security camera, and use it as a mirror
while you pick your nose.
57. Set up another battlefield with G.I. Joes vs. G.I. Janes.
(Red lipstick might give an interesting effect!!!)
58. While handling guns in the hunting department, suddenly
ask the clerk if he knows where the anti-depressants are. Act
as spastic as possible.
59. While no one’s watching quickly switch the men’s and
women’s signs on the doors of the rest room.
60. Fill your cart with boxes of condoms, and watch
everyone’s jaws drop when you attempt to buy them.
61. In the auto department, practice your “Madonna” look with
various funnels.
62. Hide in the clothing racks and when people browse
through, say things like “the fat man walks alone,” and scare
them into believing that the clothes are talking to them
63. While walking around alone, pretend someone is with you
and get into a very serious conversation. Ex: The person is
breaking up with you and you begin crying “How could you
do this to me? I thought you loved me! I knew there was
another girl, but I thought I had won. You kissed ME
darling.” Then act as though you are being beaten and fall onto
the ground screaming and having convulsions.
64. Go to an empty checkout stand and try to check people
out.
65. Get a stuffed animal and go to the front of the store and
begin stroking it lovingly, saying “Good girl, good bessie.”
66. Go over to the shoe department and try on every pair of
shoes, not putiing one pair back. Take the paper from the
boxes and throw it in various aisles.
67. Ask other customers if they have any Grey Poupon.
68. In the makeup department, spray yourself with every
perfume there is, then walk up to a boy who is with another
girl and start flirting with him in that annoying, ditsy way.
“hi!!!! (giggle) What’s your sign?(giggle).” When the boy
shows no interest, start hitting on the girl the exact same way.
“hi!!!! (giggle) What’s your sign?(giggle).”
69. Get boxes of Condoms and randomly put them in peoples
carts when they don’t realize it!
70. Walk around the perfume department with a bottle of
super strong perfume and spray people as they walk by. Lean
in and sniff them then jump back and wave your hand in front
of your nose and saying “Oh god, your over powering the
perfume!!”
71. Hit on the elderly.
72. Hit on 5 year olds.
73. In the food aisle, pretend like there’s a little bug, slowly
move your head to the right, then swing your head to the left
as if your trying to follow it. Slowly lower your head to the
ground, then start spinning around in circles stomping like
crazy. Then finally yell out “Yes!!! I got it!!! Wow, that was
the biggest Cockrouch I’ve ever seen, i think it was pregnant!!!
Hey look, there’s another one!!!” Then Repeat.
74. Repeat 73 with a can of bug spray.
75. Crawl around on the ground and pretend that your a cat.
Meow when people walk by, rub up against their legs, etc.
76. Ride around on those electric cars and pretend that your a
prissy English Man. Say things like “Cheerio, good man.” to
people who walk by. And don’t forget to have perfect posture.
77. Start grunting like Beavis and Butthead while chasing your
friends up and down aisles trying to run over them with those
electric cars. Make sure to tell your friends to act like they
don’t know you.
78. Spend all your money riding on those little rides for
toddlers. Fit the character; if your on a hoarse, then pretend
that your a cowboy, etc.. And If a little kid comes over
wanting to use it, start barking at them until
they run away crying.
79. Have silly string fights with a friend. Hide behind
customers and “accidentally” hit the people instead of your
friend.
80. Excesively use anything thing that says “Try Me”.
81. Start pocketing any and all free samples.
82. Draw mustaches on all the pictures and mannequins.
82. Walk up to the customer service and when they say
“Hello, how may I help you?” say “Yes, I’ll have a Quarter
Pounder with cheese, one strawberry shake, a large order of
french fries and a diet coke.” And when they start to talk, say
“Oh, to go”. Then when they say that they can’t give it to you
say “Oh, This is because I’m gay isn’t it? I’d expect this from
Caldors, but not Walmart. People who are gay are just like
everyone else your know. You digust me” Then walk away
mumbling to yourself. If your a guy, try to act as valley- girl-
like as you can
83. Start to madly scratch yourself and walk up