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Eddie Corbano: 7 Golden Relationship Tips From Our Grandparents

You will never guess where I have been a few weeks ago.

A very good friend of mine asked me to accompany her to her grandparents. She didn’t want to go alone, because their place was “a little weird”. I didn’t quite understand what she meant, but I said yes.

It turned out that “their place” was a retirement home. I immediately had a picture in my mind: a mixture of “One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest” and the “Simpsons-Grandpa-Retirement-Surrounding”, where old people sleepwalk through rotten corridors, aimless and under medication like zombies.

It turned out I was wrong. Terribly wrong.

What I found was some kind of paradise on earth. It was a vast compound with cottages, golf courses, outdoor restaurants, swimming pools, you name it. All in all: a tropical island paradise. Not bad for retirement, isn’t it?

The pensioners behaved more like teenagers than senior citizens. They laughed, giggled, played around, having fun. Weird indeed.

While my friend talked to her grandparents, I was sitting on a rocking chair enjoying the view, when a stunning looking 73-year old lady approached me:

“What is such a cute guy doing alone at this place?”

The classic of all pick up lines.

After 5 seconds shock-state I replied:

“… looking out for new grazing land.”

Just when I thought I was too bold we’ve started the most wonderful and interesting conversation I’ve had for years.

Her name was Louise and after a while of talking, I told her that I was a relationship coach and was helping people having healthy relationships. She then proclaimed proudly that she had been married happily for nearly 53 years and that she had the ultimate relationship tips for me.

By that time more and more of her friends surrounded us and before I realized what happened, they offered me all together on a silver plate their ultimate personal 7 relationship tips.

Of course, I want to share them with you and here they are,

The 7 Golden Relationship Tips From Our Grandparents:

1. Always talk with your partner about your problems
2. Take care of each other and respect each other
3. Spend time with each other, but don’t forget to take time for yourself
4. Learn to cook delicious meals
5. Know and respect the differences between you
6. Be patient and always try to compromise
7. Always do his laundries

I bet you assume I’ve put the last one in myself. Nooo… I haven’t. That was a real relationship tip from a likeable 68-year old grandma. Believe it or not.

That’s it. You have to decide for yourself what you find useful and what was maybe useful 50 years ago. I don’t judge. But some little advice from me: What was a useful relationship advice 2000 years ago, still is today.

Except for stoning to death your wife for unfaithfulness… I guess.

All the best,

Eddie Corbano

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How to Flirt tips

Flirting is one of those things that is essential to do if you want to be with a girl. It’s the middleman between having a normal conversation and asking her out. Why do you want to flirt with a girl? Well for one, you don’t want to end up in the friend zone with her do you? If you start off with a normal conversation at the beginning, she might think that you’re friend material. Once you’re in the friend zone, we all know that it’s a horrible place to be and difficult to get out of. So if you start flirting with her from the get go, she’ll know that you mean business. Here are 3 tips you can use to start flirting with her.

Tease Her

If you wanna learn how to flirt, then there’s nothign wrong with teasing her. I mean doing this in a playful way and not calling her a fatty or anything like that. You want to do it in a way that dosen’t insult her. When you tease her, it shows that you’re confident and have a sense of humor. It’s the best way I found for generating her interest in you.

“You’re pretty good at this game…for a girl”

Back end Compliment Her

This is one of those flirting techniques that’s easy to do and always works. You all know what a compliment is. The problem with direct compliments is that they’re so overused and boring. if she’s a beautiful woman then she’ll hear a million times how beautiful she is by anyone. What you can do instead is combine teasing and compliments together.

“You know you look sexy in that dress, I think there’s another girl somewhere wearing the same one” “I like the way you laugh, your nose kinda wiggles when you do, it’s cute”

When you do this, you’re teasing her, but complimenting her looks to show you’re interested.

Reverse Roles Okay it’s alawys the guy trying to get into the girl’s pants. Why can’t it be the other way around?

“You’re just buying me alcohol to get me drunk and take advantage of me aren’t you?” “slow down, I know you want me but it’s kinda too soon for me to go back to your place”

When you do this, you raise the thought of you two becoming sexual, yet you’re not doing it directly.

Flirting is an artful that you have to go out and EXPERIENCE to get better at. But trust me, you have to flirt with a girl unless you want to end up in the friend zone.

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Why are there challenges in marriage?

In every marriage there are times when the partners are tested and required to stop and re-define their relationship, to look and see what is going on, decide what it is they need from one another and what it is that they can or will provide. This is a process that one may have to go through many times during the course of a long relationship. In this article we will look at some of the basic dangers to a marriage, why they occur and ways of handling them.

Handling Change Itself

Before we deal with specific trouble spots, it is crucial to understand that the central factor which causes difficulty for many is change itself. Many do not realize that as time goes by people change, circumstances alter, (children are born, jobs change, family members may become ill or pass away, it may become necessary to move to another part of the country). New stresses appear and with them old, unfulfilled wishes may come to the surface. Parts of an individual that have not been expressed in the past may emerge and require expression now.

This can be frightening when it happens. One can feel as though the balance of the relationship is being altered and threatened, that which you depended upon may be shifting.

Hande it without blaming

The first thing to realize when this starts to happen, is that change is natural and inevitable. It does not mean that love is gone. This is not a time for blaming the other or feeling rejected because your partner is going through change. This is a time for creating an environment in which communication will thrive.

Build the communication

Tell you partner that you understand that change is natural and that as it is affecting both of you, you want to be a part of it. When you stay in communication fears and fantasies about what is going on do not develop. If you offer understanding and acceptance in the communication process and you cannot go wrong.

You’ll get something good from it!

Instead the marriage is strengthened and the bond between you deepened. True security in a relationship comes with the ability to accept change, to communicate about it and find a new equilibrium that suits both of them.

Threats To A Marriage- Infidelity

Infidelity and the threat of it, is the largest single issue that threatens marriages. If the partner has actually been unfaithful, and even if there is a suggestion of real interest in another, the marriage automatically goes into a crisis mode. A basis of all marriages is the ability to trust. It is not only the sexual betrayal but the fact of having been lied to that is so devastating. This break of trust not only takes time, patience and wisdom to repair, but it is absolutely necessary to understand, acknowledge and discuss what caused it to take place.

The cause of infidelity

It is also necessary to build the relationship upon future honesty and open communication once again. Often infidelity arises because certain needs in a marriage have not been met. Other times is arises as an act of resentment against the partner, or as a desire for freedom and adventure. Sometimes there are issues in the individual or in the relationship which have not been dealt with and which have simply festered.

What to do?

Rather than deal with them directly, the person then escapes the entire situation by getting involved with someone else. Whether or not you stay in the relationship after the infidelity happens, it is necessary to uncover the true causes of it, on both sides. The question often comes whether or not it is possible to repair the broken trust and go forward in the marriage after infidelity. The truth is that if both individuals are willing to confront the issues that caused the infidelity,, to open communication, to be honest and respectful of one another and to be patient, then the marriage can emerge even stronger than before.

There’s no immediate fix and easy way to overcome

However, this takes time, patience and commitment and the realization that feelings of betrayal and suspiciousness may continue to go on for awhile. When they appear, it is necessary to address them and to give and receive the reassurance needed once again. It is also necessary to create firm boundaries in the relationship that are adhered to and respected by both individuals.

Blaming the self or blaming the other is never helpful and leads nowhere. Acceptance, communication and understanding, however, always go a long way. Needless to say, both must be willing to work on this together. If the partner is not willing to deal with it, then the other partner should seek help for themselves in making constructive choices for her own life. All marriages go through challenges. Whether these challenges destroy your relationship or make it stronger, is up to both of you. It takes two to make this commitment, however. One person cannot do it alone.

About the author

Men tell in their own words why they left relationships, what went wrong, in Dr Shoshanna’s top e-book Why Men Leave. Save your marriage and learn how to build a relationship that really works. Download now at http://www.whymenleave.com . Psychologist, award winning relationship expert and speaker has helped thousands. Free ezine and articles http://www.brendashoshanna.com . topspeaker@yahoo.com

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No matter how confident a person you may be, having sex for the first time is a scary prospect for pretty much anyone. It’s like climbing into a car for the first time and being told to just start driving — a lot of things could go wrong, but you don’t really understand what they are until you start going.

There are a lot of things to worry about on your first time. You want to choose the right person. You’re nervous about taking the risk of actually suggesting that you HAVE sex. (How embarrassing will it be if the other person doesn’t want to?)

And then there’s the risk that, well, you’ll be lousy in bed.

I received an email recently from a visitor to my website www.FirstTimeSecrets.com asking the following question that really tugged at my heartstrings:

Dear Samantha,

Do you have any sex tips that will hide my virginity? I don’t want her to know it’s my first time.

Thanks,
John

I think John’s question is one that a lot of people have before their first time. Nobody wants to look like a beginner — fumbling around with zippers, saying the wrong thing, touching your lover the wrong way, making the whole experience awkward and uncomfortable.

No way! You want to be smooth and confident. You want to hit that perfect mix where you’re kind of taking charge, but kind of just letting the whole experience happen. Zen sex, you might call it.

So without further ado, here are my top five sex tips for someone who wants to hide their virginity:

1. Talk. If you can communicate with someone, you can have good sex with them. If you can’t, forget it — the sex just isn’t going to be good.

For good sex, you’ll need to be able to tell the other person how you’re feeling, what you want, what you don’t want. Imagine if you couldn’t!

Sadly, this is often the case — we’re afraid to talk, so we suffer through sex that just doesn’t feel good. My advice? Do whatever you have to do so you feel comfortable with the other person first. I don’t want to sound old-fashioned here, but dating is a pretty good place to start.

Often we’re so wrapped up in our own thoughts that we forget to think about the other person. Don’t make that mistake — it will make you a bad lover, trust me. Think about them and their needs — and maybe they’ll do the same for you.

2. Consider telling the truth. If you want to hide your virginity, you’re starting your sex life based on a lie. Lies tend to kill intimacy and make things difficult.

How bad would it be if she knew the truth about you? Or to put it another way… how would you feel if you found out later that it was HER first time and she lied to you about it?

People like it when you have the courage to tell them the truth, even if you’re embarrassed about it. Sharing something like this about yourself can bring you closer together — and that’s what you’re looking for, right?

3. Ask questions. One of the biggest mistakes a lot of people make early in their sex lives is to assume that being a good lover is all about THEM. Here’s a tip: good lovers don’t put on a big show — they pay a lot of attention to THEIR lovers.

If you’re worried about looking like a beginner, the worst thing you can do is to try strutting into the bedroom and putting on a big show of how confident you are. Trust me: try that and you’ll look like a fool.

Instead, be a considerate lover. Try asking a few questions. Here are a few to get you started:

• Are you comfortable?
• Is there anything you want to talk about before we do this?
• Are you nervous about anything?
• Can you show me how you want to be touched?

4. Take turns. This is a great game to play, whether you’re experienced or not. Suggest to your lover that you take turns inviting each other to try something sexual — she goes first.

Both of you have the right to refuse any invitation at any time. If she turns you down for something, don’t take it personally! She’s just taught you something about what she likes and doesn’t like. Pay attention to these signals, because this is how you’ll progress from lousy lover to great lover!

To keep things safe and comfy for both of you, you should only do things you’re comfortable and happy doing… and see where it leads!

For example, she might invite you to kiss her neck. Then you invite her to run her fingers slowly up your spine. This is sexy, it’s fun, and it’s relaxing. Sometimes it leads to sex, sometimes not — just go with it, be respectful, and enjoy!

This game can also be a great way to relax together and establish your boundaries. It doesn’t have to lead to full-on sex, or even to anything particularly heavy — it can be just as much fun with your clothes on.

5. Get skills. Yes, having sex is an instinct — but have you ever watched the Discovery Channel? Well, those animals are having sex by instinct — and generally, it ain’t pretty.

If you want to be a good lover and have sex that’s safe, comfortable, and totally hot for both of you, there are two ways to do it.

The first way is to jump in, try doing it, and have awkward, weird sex until you figure out how to do it right. That’s how most people do it, and it’s really a shame.

The second way is to get some skills! The more you know about how to touch your lover’s body and handle different sexual situations, the more fun it’s going to be for both of you. Shameless plug: My Guide to Losing Your Virginity is a good place to start — it’s an instruction manual that takes the guesswork out of having sex. you can pick up a copy on my site and try it risk-free.

In the end, why lie and hide the fact that it’s your first time? Instead of trying to fool her, try to wow her — by being the best lover you can be. If you can do that, everything else will fall into place.

By Samantha O.

Samantha O. is the author of First Time Secrets, an instruction manual and guide to losing your virginity. Learn more at www.firsttimesecrets.com.

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Love letter is a great communication with people we love. We might still remember how many love letter that we wrote. But this post is about mini love letters.

Mini love letters

Mini love letters is a short love letter on a different form. It’s romantic and fun to create it for people you love:

The Requirements Of Love Letter

1. 1-3 sentence long.
2. Written on unconventional media such as pen, sms, e-mail, piece of wood, tree bark, cd or things which is special.
3. Effort from writer.

How To Do That

I’ll take piece of wood for example. Cut and polish it nicely. Carve few sentence such as “I think I’m sick, or else why your face are all over my head. And I can’t do anything about it. Love you (your name)”.

Give the person you love as a gift without any reasons.

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In a small city, there was a couple who love each other for years. The problem is they don’t have any children. The husband is the only son. His family was worry and push him to get a child quickly.

Both of them feel weird that they don’t have any children for years. So they go for a medical check up in the hospital. Few days later, the husband came back with a sad face and tell his wife “It’s my fault! I’m sorry.”

The wife always wanted to have a child, so she wanted a divorce. Her husband don’t agree with it and encourage, apologize to her. He even suggest to adopt a child to make her happy. But she decided that she want to separate and went back to stay with her mom.

Her husband didn’t give up and continue to ask her to come back. After few months of persistence, the wife decide to sue her own husband for divorce. Her husband have nothing to say at that moment but he handed his wife’s medical report to her.

The wife was shocked and cried loudly when she saw the report shows that she is the one who don’t have an ovary for reproduction. Her husband explain to her that he is afraid that she can’t accept it and don’t want his family to blame her.

He said “I know that you really want to have children. I never blamed you. Without children, you still have me beside you. Let’s go home and adopt someone. You want a son or daughter?”

Now, 3 of them live happily. The husband never mention his wife problems to anyone.

Note: It’s love that give people power to accept anything. It’s love that give him courage to create new possibilities for his wife and the whole family.Love is beautiful when you give and not asking anything in return.

What do you think about this story?

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This post is going to introduce a fun tool for you. Guess what! It’s a huge collection of romantic e-cards.

You can send the e-cards to your love ones with love and it’s free!

Have a look at here.

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Do you want to have a love relationship that is appreciated? An appreciated love relationship is really a great relationship which can have:

Happiness

When we appreciate what others do for us, we will only have happiness and no upset. Let’s imagine! When they did something good and you appreciate it, they will feel happy that their efforts are appreciated. If they did something bad to us, we appreciate their good intention too. No one who is in relationship with us will have bad intention to us. Just appreciate their efforts first and tell them to do differently next time.

We become attractive

When we appreciate their good intention to us, we are attractive to them. In other places, people just take things for granted and have no or little appreciation. Just ask yourself “Do you like to be with people who always appreciate you or people who don’t care whatever you do for them?”

Everyday gets lots of love

When they have an appreciated love relationship, they are willing to give more love. Most people are afraid to express their love because they have bad experience about the love they give. Their love might be rejected or not appreciated in the past. When you appreciate them, you’ll get more love!

Fulfilling

When both of you have an appreciated love relationship, it will be very fulfilling. Why? It’s because there’s no hate, no upset, no fear of losing each other, no communication barriers and only great and enjoying relationship.

How to practice Appreciation?

1. When they did something good for you, appreciate them and no pretending not to know or feel shy to appreciate them.
2. When they did something bad for you, appreciate their good intention and don’t scold or say anything else before appreciating them. After appreciating them, they only will start listen to what didn’t fit your needs.
3. Appreciate, appreciate and appreciate everyday. If you didn’t appreciate anything in one day, quickly find one.

This is a great romantic I want to share with everyone. It’s fun and easy. If you have any questions or great comments about “appreciated love relationship”. Please do so at the comment area. I’m happy to take your contribution.

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What is Love Relationship Alchemy

Alchemy is a study of science during the medieval. “Love relationship alchemy” or “alchemy of love” means also the “chemistry of love”!

Does Love Relationship Alchemy Really Exist?

Yes. It does exist. At least you and I experienced it- the chemical reaction in our body when we see someone! So, it’s that love? Look at this formula:

Chemical Reaction = Love

This is not love. Chemical reaction = Chemical Reaction.

How does it looks like when we use love relationship alchemy in life?

When we use the chemical relationship in love relationship, it will be chaos. When there is chemical reaction, we love and want to be with that person. After a while (some last few months and some last few weeks) when there are no more reaction going, we usually think that we don’t love that person anymore.

The consequences of loving with the chemical reaction

1.      When certain people have chemical reaction with few people, they might have relationship with few people.

2.      When people who are in a marriage lose their alchemy with their spouse and have alchemy with another person, they will have an external affair.

3.      When 2 people are in a love relationship and someone have a chemical reaction with a third party, they might give up their current relationship and have a new ones.

That’s not love. Loving with chemical reaction gives you no freedom in life. If you do that, you are seeking for chemical reaction at an on-going daily basis not seeking for love. We are like just animals seeking for that chemical reaction for the rest of our life if we do that.

So… what is love?

Love is a declaration to a person that you love him or her. Instead of finding that alchemy, find for someone you are inspired to be with. When you love in this way, you have the say to create romantic feelings and that chemical reaction anytime and any places. You can that and create romance.

That is what so called unconditional love

When you stop chasing love relationship alchemy, you can enjoy love relationship and attract others. It’s because you are the one who create romance, love, happiness and relationship. People like to be with you as a person like this more than a person who seeks for that chemical reaction!

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How can you be attractive easily just within 1 second? The answer is SMILE!

I would like to share with you one of my experience. When I was very young, I used to be very cool. I have red hair and ear ring. I never smile to people and I think women will like this kind of cool. But for years, I faced many rejections from woman. I cracked my head and really clueless that time.

Smile starts everything

I went to a seminar and I stop being cool. I’m so tired pretending to be cool. When I start to express myself and smile naturally everyday, someone I like told me she fall in love with me. And we started!

That’s it! Just smile from your heart and smile naturally.

Being Cool Doesn’t Make Your Face Look Better!

If you asked any women or men, they will tell you they are attracted by people who love to smile. Being cool is not a good way for men or women. Your looks does matter, but being cool will not make you look better. Your look can’t be change anymore. If you are sad about your look everyday, your face will look worse.

Attraction Doesn’t Really Requires Good Looking Face!

A normal face with a smile will attract many people to you. Believe or not, try it out! I’ve experience the power of smile. Have fun!

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