Marriage counseling is actually great. It teaches you to share everything with each other. Not to keep any secrets. That marriage is work. And not to give up at the first sign of difficulty. As for if it works or not well that depends on the person in counseling. And if they want make there marriage work.
But I would recommend that everyone who is planning to get married go through counseling. It will also help answer question that you may have been afraid to ask your significant other.
i got nothing out of it he lied the whole way thru the more i talked he over talked me i really wanted it to help us but if either party dont want to be there or isnt honest forget all about it
Yes , You will lurn how to hear each other . If you will do as they tell you. Most people are so worked up in what they want to say they don’t hear what the other person is saying.
Counseling helps if its excepted with a positive attitude. Both of you have to be open & honest about everything to have it make a difference. If the lies still don’t change, then you are wasting your time.
consists of-
why are you here
what do you want to get out of this
are you open to/for change
what are you needs
what are his/her needs
what would you like to do next
thanks $300.00 please
It won’t hurt any thing and may be a big help for you —it is designed to help your marriage out! If you are speaking about counseling after marriage(some people get some counseling before hand) it will work if both people are there and really trying!!!! If he/she trys to put on a show for the counselor and does the yelling at home forget it!!!
Yes, I have experience.
You can expect to pay less for counseling than you will pay for a divorce.
It helps if you both actually want to be married.
If you don’t both want to stay married, you can go to counseling, and it will help you determine that one or the other or both of you don’t want to be married. Then you’ll likely get divorced, and sometimes that’s better. I’m fine with my decision to get divorced, because I know that there was nothing more that I could have done to fix my marriage, and unlike a lot of divorced people I know, I have “closure” for lack of a less tacky word.
Good luck
Yes i just married in May of this year and it was required for us to go to marriage counseling if we wanted to get married in the church….it helped us a little bit on how to deal with problems, but you sortof learn how do know and deal eachother through living everyday with eachother.
what to expect….how about you growing up alittle!!!! ur marriage is on the line here…thast man need sto get tricked to stay around…..instead of the other hottie in his life that puts him beofre her…what to expect…cmon!!!
its a joint effort between spouses….and you must know marraige counselors are not there to make you feel good…their job is to point out problems and to show you how to solve them…hearing painful reminders of ones own role in marriage is not easy …but if your willing to give your all to save your marriage …listen..and try to make the necessary changes. even if one spouses decideds not to go to therapy …going alone can and sometimes does save the marriage….good luck love
December 16th, 2009 at 9:00 am
Marriage counseling is actually great. It teaches you to share everything with each other. Not to keep any secrets. That marriage is work. And not to give up at the first sign of difficulty. As for if it works or not well that depends on the person in counseling. And if they want make there marriage work.
But I would recommend that everyone who is planning to get married go through counseling. It will also help answer question that you may have been afraid to ask your significant other.
December 16th, 2009 at 9:00 am
i got nothing out of it he lied the whole way thru the more i talked he over talked me i really wanted it to help us but if either party dont want to be there or isnt honest forget all about it
December 16th, 2009 at 9:00 am
Yes , You will lurn how to hear each other . If you will do as they tell you. Most people are so worked up in what they want to say they don’t hear what the other person is saying.
December 16th, 2009 at 9:00 am
They teach you how to communicate. Sometime you are given activities to work on and report on your next visit. It really depends on why you are there.
December 16th, 2009 at 9:00 am
Counseling helps if its excepted with a positive attitude. Both of you have to be open & honest about everything to have it make a difference. If the lies still don’t change, then you are wasting your time.
December 16th, 2009 at 9:00 am
you may receive some startling realities
December 16th, 2009 at 9:00 am
They will offer a series of compromising situations that you will try to rationalize as which is best for you.
Good luck
December 16th, 2009 at 9:00 am
consists of-
why are you here
what do you want to get out of this
are you open to/for change
what are you needs
what are his/her needs
what would you like to do next
thanks $300.00 please
December 16th, 2009 at 9:00 am
It won’t hurt any thing and may be a big help for you —it is designed to help your marriage out! If you are speaking about counseling after marriage(some people get some counseling before hand) it will work if both people are there and really trying!!!! If he/she trys to put on a show for the counselor and does the yelling at home forget it!!!
December 16th, 2009 at 9:00 am
Yes, I have experience.
You can expect to pay less for counseling than you will pay for a divorce.
It helps if you both actually want to be married.
If you don’t both want to stay married, you can go to counseling, and it will help you determine that one or the other or both of you don’t want to be married. Then you’ll likely get divorced, and sometimes that’s better. I’m fine with my decision to get divorced, because I know that there was nothing more that I could have done to fix my marriage, and unlike a lot of divorced people I know, I have “closure” for lack of a less tacky word.
Good luck
December 16th, 2009 at 9:00 am
Yes i just married in May of this year and it was required for us to go to marriage counseling if we wanted to get married in the church….it helped us a little bit on how to deal with problems, but you sortof learn how do know and deal eachother through living everyday with eachother.
December 16th, 2009 at 9:00 am
what to expect….how about you growing up alittle!!!! ur marriage is on the line here…thast man need sto get tricked to stay around…..instead of the other hottie in his life that puts him beofre her…what to expect…cmon!!!
December 16th, 2009 at 9:00 am
its a joint effort between spouses….and you must know marraige counselors are not there to make you feel good…their job is to point out problems and to show you how to solve them…hearing painful reminders of ones own role in marriage is not easy …but if your willing to give your all to save your marriage …listen..and try to make the necessary changes. even if one spouses decideds not to go to therapy …going alone can and sometimes does save the marriage….good luck love