The most important thing in my opinion is to really decide if you love this person, if you love them and trust them then decide that there is nothing that they will do that you will leave them for. that you are in for it, until the end. Other wise there will come a point where it will be to much, the imaginary line in your mind that says I will love you until you push me to here has been crossed and that is it and now I am leaving. that however doesn’t mean that you let someone walk all over you or treat you badly. That is why it is important to pick your life mate carefully. To really know who they are and what they are about before you get that serious. To know that they have your and their best interest at heart and that you can trust them with your heart, that you are on the same page. Fight fair, don’t say or do thigns out of spite just to strike out at your partner to hurt them back or knock them down. Be open and honest about your feelings and your thoughts, if you let things back up over time resentment will build which will damage your relationship a lot more. Don’t second guess your partner, see the reality of what is going on or how they feel, not what you think is going on or what it seems like they feel. If you are confused ask, be candid and open about it. Don’t play games with your partner and don’t buy into the games that your partner might play. That is a lot, but some of the things that I have learned.
Always be willing to communicate with one another. Keep trust and honesty right up there with the communication. And never go to bed mad at one another.
Things to watch out for? Making sure the other is in full knowledge of your love both emotionally and physically.
What not to fight about? Pick your battles wisely. Leave past in the past, etc, never bring up a past fight.
What is important? That you both feel safe within the relationship; there are no signs of emotional or verbal abuse, and that each puts in 100/100. Not 50/50. Above all, honesty, loyalty and complete respect. Allowing each other to grow and feel free within the bounds of marital vows. Marriage is not a feeling of being tied; done correctly, it is extremely freeing.
Kiss a lot, touch a lot, make love a lot.
Don’t take each other too seriously.
Don’t expect too much from your partner.
Live every moment as if the other is going to fall under a bus at any minute.
Remember: Kissing and cuddling don’t last, cooking and cleaning do.
talk to each other about everything…from how your last bm was, the finances, the dream you had last night, kids’s grades and how kinky you want to be in bed tonight…everything….be BEST friends
Definitely, think before you speak! don’t ever, say something you will later regret.Don’t fight over little things actually anything,if all a person does is fight with there spouse then they shouldn’t be together.The most important thing is spending quality time with each other the more you spend time together the better the less and your marriage will be over!
Respect, respect comes in diferent aspects do not fool around physically you know like hittin, also respect her/he space, and have good comunication have dreams together
shes never fat
shes the most beautiful girl
shes perfect
i love u
thanks for being with me
those shud come in handy everyday
n always say yes to wutever she wants u to do …… wen u wanna say no just dont n do it once n mess it up wutever she asks u n say i m sorry … its just smthin u cant do n ur amazed how well she can do it ……. n thats y u feel ur so lucky to b with someone so understanding ..
a rose once in a while wont kill ya either …
n if u say no then u aint getting any in bed
I know it sounds bad… but fight! Find something that the both of you can’t agree on (ie.. football teams) and fight. Let the debate get seriously heated to the point you want to kill each other, then say I’m sorry. It makes for the best “lovin” ever. That and it keeps the marriage from getting stale. Do spontaneous things, treat each other to romantic dinners by candle light at home. Don’t fight about things you can’t change. What’s important is that you love each other and never take each other for granted. I should know, my husband and I almost divorced because of that.
Don’t fight about the little stuff. I know my dad regrets ever fighting with my Mom about spilt soda on the carpet seven years later after they’ve been divorced. He regrets it every day of his life. Don’t yell, try and reason, don’t act on impulse, think about what you’re going to say before you say it, you’ll thank yourself later, and it could save your marriage.
I have talked to several people that have been married for 20-50 years. When I asked how did you do that they all said the exact same thing. It is constant work that never ends.
December 18th, 2009 at 8:55 am
Try not to go to bed angry.
Fight fair.
No name calling.
Don’t use the kids or the in-laws as a weapon when you’re angry.
Be kind.
December 18th, 2009 at 8:55 am
The most important thing in my opinion is to really decide if you love this person, if you love them and trust them then decide that there is nothing that they will do that you will leave them for. that you are in for it, until the end. Other wise there will come a point where it will be to much, the imaginary line in your mind that says I will love you until you push me to here has been crossed and that is it and now I am leaving. that however doesn’t mean that you let someone walk all over you or treat you badly. That is why it is important to pick your life mate carefully. To really know who they are and what they are about before you get that serious. To know that they have your and their best interest at heart and that you can trust them with your heart, that you are on the same page. Fight fair, don’t say or do thigns out of spite just to strike out at your partner to hurt them back or knock them down. Be open and honest about your feelings and your thoughts, if you let things back up over time resentment will build which will damage your relationship a lot more. Don’t second guess your partner, see the reality of what is going on or how they feel, not what you think is going on or what it seems like they feel. If you are confused ask, be candid and open about it. Don’t play games with your partner and don’t buy into the games that your partner might play. That is a lot, but some of the things that I have learned.
December 18th, 2009 at 8:55 am
Leave it at the door.
December 18th, 2009 at 8:55 am
Always be willing to communicate with one another. Keep trust and honesty right up there with the communication. And never go to bed mad at one another.
December 18th, 2009 at 8:55 am
Always keep the communication with each other,,,,and most importantly,,TRUST in each other…………respect , and true love.
December 18th, 2009 at 8:55 am
if you are a male, learn to keep your mouth shut, and expect the unexpected. and dont forget to say, yes honey,
December 18th, 2009 at 8:55 am
Things to watch out for? Making sure the other is in full knowledge of your love both emotionally and physically.
What not to fight about? Pick your battles wisely. Leave past in the past, etc, never bring up a past fight.
What is important? That you both feel safe within the relationship; there are no signs of emotional or verbal abuse, and that each puts in 100/100. Not 50/50. Above all, honesty, loyalty and complete respect. Allowing each other to grow and feel free within the bounds of marital vows. Marriage is not a feeling of being tied; done correctly, it is extremely freeing.
Kiss a lot, touch a lot, make love a lot.
December 18th, 2009 at 8:55 am
patience. wear it like amour, you’re going to need it
December 18th, 2009 at 8:55 am
Don’t take each other too seriously.
Don’t expect too much from your partner.
Live every moment as if the other is going to fall under a bus at any minute.
Remember: Kissing and cuddling don’t last, cooking and cleaning do.
December 18th, 2009 at 8:55 am
talk to each other about everything…from how your last bm was, the finances, the dream you had last night, kids’s grades and how kinky you want to be in bed tonight…everything….be BEST friends
December 18th, 2009 at 8:55 am
respect each other…do not believe that wives should submit themselves to their husbands, it should be MUTUAL SUBMISSION…
December 18th, 2009 at 8:55 am
Definitely, think before you speak! don’t ever, say something you will later regret.Don’t fight over little things actually anything,if all a person does is fight with there spouse then they shouldn’t be together.The most important thing is spending quality time with each other the more you spend time together the better the less and your marriage will be over!
December 18th, 2009 at 8:55 am
everything out!
December 18th, 2009 at 8:55 am
Expect the unexpected.
December 18th, 2009 at 8:55 am
Keep the lines of communication open at all times.
December 18th, 2009 at 8:55 am
TRUST HONESTY AND FAITHFULNESS
December 18th, 2009 at 8:55 am
Respect, respect comes in diferent aspects do not fool around physically you know like hittin, also respect her/he space, and have good comunication have dreams together
December 18th, 2009 at 8:55 am
shes never fat
shes the most beautiful girl
shes perfect
i love u
thanks for being with me
those shud come in handy everyday
n always say yes to wutever she wants u to do …… wen u wanna say no just dont n do it once n mess it up wutever she asks u n say i m sorry … its just smthin u cant do n ur amazed how well she can do it ……. n thats y u feel ur so lucky to b with someone so understanding ..
a rose once in a while wont kill ya either …
n if u say no then u aint getting any in bed
December 18th, 2009 at 8:55 am
I know it sounds bad… but fight! Find something that the both of you can’t agree on (ie.. football teams) and fight. Let the debate get seriously heated to the point you want to kill each other, then say I’m sorry. It makes for the best “lovin” ever. That and it keeps the marriage from getting stale. Do spontaneous things, treat each other to romantic dinners by candle light at home. Don’t fight about things you can’t change. What’s important is that you love each other and never take each other for granted. I should know, my husband and I almost divorced because of that.
December 18th, 2009 at 8:55 am
Don’t fight about the little stuff. I know my dad regrets ever fighting with my Mom about spilt soda on the carpet seven years later after they’ve been divorced. He regrets it every day of his life. Don’t yell, try and reason, don’t act on impulse, think about what you’re going to say before you say it, you’ll thank yourself later, and it could save your marriage.
December 18th, 2009 at 8:55 am
I have talked to several people that have been married for 20-50 years. When I asked how did you do that they all said the exact same thing. It is constant work that never ends.