My husband is driving me crazy. There is nothing he is doing that is intentionally wrong or mean. He’s a very nice guy. He just says and does things that drive me absolutely crazy, make no sense to me, and at times even seem really stupid. Most people tell me that I’m being over critical and hypersensetive but I disagree. I can’t bring myself to leave him. We have no kids and are both turning 30. Help???? Any advice?
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December 26th, 2009 at 8:58 am
before we can help you we need to know what he is doing wrong
December 26th, 2009 at 8:58 am
Sounds like you need a break! I’ve been happily married now for 16 years, I’m 38. One thing we do is take little 3 day trips apart every few months. In fact, right now my wife is on vacation, which means I’m home alone, on vacation! You need space and independence and personal time, just like before you were married. Smothering each other only drives the other crazy, big things and little things… and if you cannot have personal time and space because of jealousy or trust issues, then perhaps there are bigger issues to work out. Before you “bring yourself to leave him”, take a few little trips, day trips even, to the museum or park or to the country or a small town you’ve never really been to. When you are alone for a few hours or a few days, you can clear your head and enjoy the silence. You might realize how much you miss the little things that drive you crazy, or you might realize that life is better without him. You’ll know in YOUR heart which one it is. Don’t be afraid to act on either result…. you have 50+ years left so you might as well find out what makes you the happiest right now.
December 26th, 2009 at 8:58 am
It is normal to feel that way at some point in a marriage. That’s why they say marriage is about tolerance, compassion and respect (of course love too). But every case is different and only you can know if you really can’t stay in this marriage. And you can’t decide that in one day, or from our answers. You need to start a journey of evaluation and honesty. It’s not going to be easy. It requires courage, but you own it to yourself and to him.
First thing to do is talk to him. Don’t be afraid. There is nothing wrong with feeling this way. Then decide what to do next depending on how he reacts, what he says, and how you feel. You might need to consider counseling. Be honest to yourself and to him.
Good luck!
December 26th, 2009 at 8:58 am
if there is nothing that he is doing as you said then you need to ask yourself why you are feeling like that…when your in love with someone you love them because of who they are..the problem doesnt have to be anyones fault,it could just be that maybe you guys are not right for each other…and thats why you are finding it hard to tolerate with each other…does he know that your feeling like this? maybe he fels like this also…are you guys spending time with each other enough…maybe you guys are drifting apart and you cant relate to him anymore…it seems like you want things but hes not aware of it amd your getting frustrated…the best thing to do is to talk with him..
hpe dis helps:) x
December 26th, 2009 at 8:58 am
girl..iKNOW how you feel. ive been dating my guy for over a year and its like sometimes he says something and i wanna like RING his neck. you just need to take a deep breath and think about whats he saying. is he hurting you? and if its something that is bothering you just talk to him about it. if you dont, then your angry feelings are going to build up and up and one day you are going to explode and geuss what? he’ll have NO idea what the hell is going on and think your crazy. i talked to my guy before that could happen..u should do the same
December 26th, 2009 at 8:58 am
Maybe you are hypersensitive or over critical - give the guy a break - I’m sure you are not perfect. Talk to him like an adult/your equal, find out why he did what he did or said what he said. You would probably be more patient with a friend or co-worker, try treating you husband with the same respect.
December 26th, 2009 at 8:58 am
You need to sit down with him and tell him what your goals in this marriage. You have no clear cut goals so he then have a clue on your behavior. You want to have no goals but want to complain for the sake of complaining.
December 26th, 2009 at 8:58 am
Go to marriage counseling!
December 26th, 2009 at 8:58 am
Nice guy uh? If you find fault in him being him then you do not need to be a part of his life and make it miserable.
December 26th, 2009 at 8:58 am
There are not to many nice guys left, I wouldn’t leave. You don’t say what he does that drives you crazy so its hard to give advice. Maybe find out why he does that things he does and go from there