Your view of marriage is one of corruption and disgust.
The true meaning of marriage is the giving of oneself to another through sacramental matrimony. In this way, we can grow closer to God, and fofill his will by populating the earth with more life - the most precious gift we could receive!
Marriage counseling is not for the purpose of learning how to “do it” as a couple. Rather, it is a guide to enhance your relationship with the Lord.
I’m not Catholic, but I have to wonder why parents of children seek help (counseling, guidance) from people who are not married, have never had children, and don’t plan to have children.
The reason, although hard to prove that it is a valid reason, is because the person giving the counsel or guidance has received training for that purpose.
As far as I know, that applies to Catholic Priests as well.
I am 41 , a virgin, a catholic and all my friends come to me for adviuce. Its not so much about experience in marriage as it is as to how you look at things. It also counts that your friends know they can always trust you to give them the best of advice with the best of intentions.
It all starts with how u look at marriage. If you cannot see it through the eyes of a child and with a pure heart your marriage is in trouble.
Yes! That person can certainly have an objective view.
Just as I would take advice about pregnancy from a male obstetrician, or menopausal advice from a male gynecologist.
Priests are educated in family and the Church. They grew up in families and are human beings themselves. They can help many couples with marriage and what God expects of them.
To assume that anyone providing counseling must have experienced everything they offer counseling for would leave a lot of psychiatrists our of business. Most psychiatrists have never had the mental illnesses they treat.
Yes. Experience is not the primary factor in knowing something about an issue. Counseling involves an exchange of issue factor, questions, suggestions etc.between Client and Counselor. The status of a person ie ‘virgin’ or otherwise, is subject to a counseling system- not a dictation of ideas on-marriage propounded by the Counselor.
I am not catholic, but, a 70 year old virgin has made a 70 year commitment, a relationship that has lasted many years longer than a lot of relationships i know of…
even if that commitment isn’t of a romantic or sexual nature, it doesn’t invalidate the opinions of that person and their ability to give advice to those who seek it.
Not a Catholic, so I’d never go to a priest or nun, but if they are well-versed in the Bible (most are not) and have counseled many married couples, they could do better than most folks.
Why not. Being a virgin or not does not correlate with me that the person is not able to counsel. I never attempted suicide however I can counsel a suicidal person. One has nothing to do with the other.
DFF
Yes. Matrimony is a Holy Sacrament and clergy tend to know more about the Holy Sacraments that most lay Catholics - so yes I would trust a Catholic priest who councils married couples.
Of course, if he had been trained to counsel people in such matters, much like I felt confident in having a 60-year-old obstetrician deliver my children even though he’d never been pregnant.
Dumb argument.
January 6th, 2010 at 8:58 am
Your view of marriage is one of corruption and disgust.
The true meaning of marriage is the giving of oneself to another through sacramental matrimony. In this way, we can grow closer to God, and fofill his will by populating the earth with more life - the most precious gift we could receive!
Marriage counseling is not for the purpose of learning how to “do it” as a couple. Rather, it is a guide to enhance your relationship with the Lord.
January 6th, 2010 at 8:58 am
I’m not Catholic, but I have to wonder why parents of children seek help (counseling, guidance) from people who are not married, have never had children, and don’t plan to have children.
The reason, although hard to prove that it is a valid reason, is because the person giving the counsel or guidance has received training for that purpose.
As far as I know, that applies to Catholic Priests as well.
January 6th, 2010 at 8:58 am
I am 41 , a virgin, a catholic and all my friends come to me for adviuce. Its not so much about experience in marriage as it is as to how you look at things. It also counts that your friends know they can always trust you to give them the best of advice with the best of intentions.
It all starts with how u look at marriage. If you cannot see it through the eyes of a child and with a pure heart your marriage is in trouble.
January 6th, 2010 at 8:58 am
Yes! That person can certainly have an objective view.
Just as I would take advice about pregnancy from a male obstetrician, or menopausal advice from a male gynecologist.
Priests are educated in family and the Church. They grew up in families and are human beings themselves. They can help many couples with marriage and what God expects of them.
To assume that anyone providing counseling must have experienced everything they offer counseling for would leave a lot of psychiatrists our of business. Most psychiatrists have never had the mental illnesses they treat.
January 6th, 2010 at 8:58 am
Yes. Experience is not the primary factor in knowing something about an issue. Counseling involves an exchange of issue factor, questions, suggestions etc.between Client and Counselor. The status of a person ie ‘virgin’ or otherwise, is subject to a counseling system- not a dictation of ideas on-marriage propounded by the Counselor.
January 6th, 2010 at 8:58 am
I am not catholic, but, a 70 year old virgin has made a 70 year commitment, a relationship that has lasted many years longer than a lot of relationships i know of…
even if that commitment isn’t of a romantic or sexual nature, it doesn’t invalidate the opinions of that person and their ability to give advice to those who seek it.
January 6th, 2010 at 8:58 am
Not a Catholic, so I’d never go to a priest or nun, but if they are well-versed in the Bible (most are not) and have counseled many married couples, they could do better than most folks.
January 6th, 2010 at 8:58 am
Why not. Being a virgin or not does not correlate with me that the person is not able to counsel. I never attempted suicide however I can counsel a suicidal person. One has nothing to do with the other.
DFF
January 6th, 2010 at 8:58 am
Depends on whether or not he had any education preparing him to be a marriage counselor…
….which priests have received. In case you didn’t know.
January 6th, 2010 at 8:58 am
Yes. Matrimony is a Holy Sacrament and clergy tend to know more about the Holy Sacraments that most lay Catholics - so yes I would trust a Catholic priest who councils married couples.
January 6th, 2010 at 8:58 am
Of course, if he had been trained to counsel people in such matters, much like I felt confident in having a 60-year-old obstetrician deliver my children even though he’d never been pregnant.
Dumb argument.
January 6th, 2010 at 8:58 am
LOL, despite the irony, I’m sure it has more to do with advice based on knowledge of the word of God, rather than his relationship experience.
January 6th, 2010 at 8:58 am
virgin - no sure
70 y/o never married- yes- she must know all of it to decide it’s not worth it
January 6th, 2010 at 8:58 am
or Dr. Spock on how to raise children and he never had any.
or Freud who was a raging drug addict
or Obama who is a bleeding heart liberal
January 6th, 2010 at 8:58 am
Yes….although Jesus was only 30ish….He counseled many when He was on earth
January 6th, 2010 at 8:58 am
Yes.
January 6th, 2010 at 8:58 am
Yes
January 6th, 2010 at 8:58 am
Yes, once the advice is working.
January 6th, 2010 at 8:58 am
yes, there is a lot of wisdom in older people.