ive been with a guy for over 3 years. he & i are finally moving together n our own place in dec… we’ve been separated alot due to school and such . but now we are finally going to be together. im beyond excited. and i know hes excited 2 cause he says “2months! 2 months” and.. “we need to buy a media center & book shelf for the apartment” and stuff like that…
you know.. LOL.
we’re young im 19 & hes 23. but we’ve been together since forever (thats the way it feels like). and ive been through so much in my young age.. im very mature. (i have my occasions of silliness but everyone does).
but the thing is…i want babies.
and marriage. and not in that order.
im going to school .. im studying to become a nurse
& weve been through so much ups & downs. now that we are finally moving together
all i can think about is being his wife.
i tell him that. he doesnt say nothing he just looks @ me.
i tell him i dont want a wedding or proposal or ring or nothing. i just want to go to the city hall. and then maybe a nice dinner just us 2. that day and just be happy.
he snapped & said dont tell him how to do things…(what does he mean by things? i wasnt even trying to i was just. . telling him what i wanted)
and babies. he gives me an outright NO. says we’re too young. i guess.. we are too young. but im talking about Planning a baby for we can have it by the time hes 25. and the time im 21. is that such a bad idea considering the fact
he doesnt use protection when we have sex “Cuz Condoms Sucks” that how he responded when i asked him why doesnt he want to use them.
the way we act most likely we will get pregnant by ACCIDENT.
i bought condoms. and everything but he never uses them i really want a baby. so i dont mind. and when he told me recently that he will become the god father of his bestfriend’s son.. my heart hurt? i was jealous? am i wrong to be jealous.. i want to be happy for him but at the same time im angry @ him.. i know god sons are different from your own children but somehow someway it still hurt me.
he & i may be young..but.. i do want to do everything right. i want to have marriage & kids. he never seems to want to talk 2 me about it. i LOVE HIM.. but i cant take being with someone who doesnt show what he wants with me. . .
these are alot of questions i hope someone can answer them all. Thankyou. and please excuse my grammar errors. i am typing really fast.
Marriage Advice.!! (serious Questions Only)?
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January 16th, 2010 at 9:03 am
You need to realize men can not handle so much at the same time! he is for now happy that you two are moving in together and you all of the sudden throw the marriage, and baby out there. You should have not even talked about it. Now he knows you are despred to get married and that is not the way to go. First move in together and see how it goes. You two need to get to know one another before thinking about marriage and babies!…
January 16th, 2010 at 9:03 am
are u sure he is serious about the whole arrangement of living like
husband and wife? living together and building a family is a two different
scenario. if i were you, i will consider finishing your nursing degree
first so if anything happens, you are ready financially.
January 16th, 2010 at 9:03 am
Well, I really think you guys need to communicate. It’s important to have the same goals in a relationship. Something like marriage and kids is something you have to see eye to eye on or one of you will be left unhappy.
January 16th, 2010 at 9:03 am
if he dont want to talk about those things he might not see his future with you or he might not be a woman and plan 10 years ahead.
January 16th, 2010 at 9:03 am
They way your acting now…. Your boyfriend is going to run the other way.. GIRL YOU JUST MOVED IN TOGETHER RELAX!!!.. Both of you need to graduate from college first.!!!
January 16th, 2010 at 9:03 am
be patient and enjoy the next step in your relationship