My husband has started being hateful with everybody in the past 4 or 5 months. The kids cant say or do anything unless he yells at them to set down or shut up. He cusses and yells at other drivers. He tells me all the time about telling people off at his work. He gets mad at me about the schedule I have to work. I no longer look forward to spending time with him and have been thinking about leaving. I know that every relationship has problems, but I won’t live a life of bickering and arguing all the time as I have been down that road most of my life and don’t see how anyone wants to live like that. During the last few months I have started resenting the fact that he only started helping around the house and it’s only to wash a few clothes or load the dishwasher. He also cooks for him and the kids. I appreciate what little he does do but everything else is left for me to do on my 2 days off. I’m thinking of leaving if his attitude doesn’t change. Am I just overreacting? And is it normal to sometimes feel like something is missing in a long marriage? We’ve been married 8 yrs.
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January 24th, 2010 at 8:54 am
He sounds depressed. Men can display depression as anger. You need to encourage him to talk to his doctor. Give him an ultimatum. Let him know you and the kids can’t stand his angry outbursts much longer and encourage him to talk to a doctor. He’s depressed.
January 24th, 2010 at 8:54 am
Your husband is unhappy with his life in general. There’s a reason why everything gets on his nerve. Try to talk to him when he’s calm and see what’s bothering him. Leave aside the cleaning issues for now and only talk about him and how he feels, what’s missing, what he would like to change etc.
January 24th, 2010 at 8:54 am
Sit down and talk to him about it. Tell him you’ve noticed HUGE changes in his behavior and they are freaking you and the kids out! Ask him why the sudden shift? If he has no reason - tell him he must go to his physician for a check up because something is obviously wrong…
You don’t leave for this - you woman up - remember your vows and push him to pull it together.
January 24th, 2010 at 8:54 am
You two just need to sit down with one another and TALK. Something MUST be on his mind or bothering him to make him so irritable all the time. Why not find out what the root of the problem is and then trying to work through it?
January 24th, 2010 at 8:55 am
Married 8 years? Woah thats long! Did this only start just now?
I believe your hubby thinks he’s the man of the house and that’s not a good thing. He seems like he’s very controlling. I don’t see a good future!
January 24th, 2010 at 8:55 am
8yrs you haven’t even hit the halfway mark yet.try talking to him. maybe there is something bothering him that he hasn’t figured out how to bring up. how’s the sex life? good or dead?could be any number of reasons he’s acting this way
January 24th, 2010 at 8:55 am
1st question and im not being a smart *** do u please him in bed? no nookie=bad attitude!
2 who works more i average 80+ hrs a week my honey does everything in the house i do the yard we r very happy!
January 24th, 2010 at 8:55 am
Sometimes a major change in attitude can be a result of a health problem. Sounds like my father before his heart attack or my father-in law after his stroke. He should see a doctor.
January 24th, 2010 at 8:55 am
You’re not overreacting; something is wrong. Try talking, or maybe even counseling.
January 24th, 2010 at 8:55 am
Something has trigger him off within these months.Have him be seen by a doctor. If this is something out of the ordinary then be a PI and talk to him.Some kind of stress is what is setting this off or a health issue.You need to talk to him and let him know you can’t tolerate his verbal
abuse to the kids any more or to you.You being the mom have to protect your kids.Get use to the help he gives to you all men think that doing the dishes is all.But be more concern of the fact that
something has angrier him.Maybe hes going through male menopause.And remember you a strong woman that can feed the needs of your kids.So if after a talk and a health screening and it continues then leave.You’ve been in this situation before of yelling and arguing and its so hurtful and damaging to our hearts and minds.And you don’t need to take it anymore.Or the pattern will
continue with the kids.And they will grow up to think its ok to give and receive any abuse.
January 24th, 2010 at 8:55 am
maybe something is bothering him..just talk to him sweetly…he might not tell you what it is..coz he himself maybe confused …but if u r sweet 2 him..and tell him aways that u love him..and u just wanna be with him..he meanas most 2 u..and that u r alws there 4 him…trust me.. guys love 2 hear that..however much long ur marriag mit b… guys love 2 hear that..a little patience is all thats required..its not mere advice..its expirience thts talking..it took all my patience n love 2 make my husband a calmer n more understanding guy..but i succeeded..i had 2 struggle 2 yrs.bt i succeeded..