im trying to get back those romantic and physical feelings that my wife of 18yrs has lost in me. so im wondering do u get what u pay for? I have found pastors at local churches that have free classes. to dr. in marriage counseling that charge 250 dallors per session. any past counseling experiances good or bad my be helpfull
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February 4th, 2010 at 8:58 am
We actually went through the church. Twice. Once through catholic social services and it sucked! She was useless. She might as well have had a degree written with crayon. But we did find a couple at our local church that was FANTASTIC. They were open and non-judgemental. We went several times and it was free. It taught us how to open up to each other again and to regain trust. We would also go out on a date afterward. But after a few years those ideas fell to the background (we quit going) and we aren’t as bad as we use to be but the connection..the spark is gone again. It isn’t how much you pay, it’s how much time and effort you put forth. It is work, as you well know. And I truly believe that it can always be fixed. Good luck!
February 4th, 2010 at 8:58 am
I don’t know where you are located at but, I would be very careful about hiring a pastor to do marriage counseling. Most pastors are not qualified to counsel in marriage. They think they are, but they’ve had little to no education in it. My wife is a marriage counselor with a B.S. in psychology and a Masters in Christian Counseling. She goes every year for continuing education classes to keep up her license. Her services are offered as a ministry to help couples and she only requests that someone try to donate $65 per session. She has helped many couples work out their problems and stay together. Check around. Go to the web site for NCCA and see if they have a counselor in your area. Some will charge fees, some will ask donations. IT varies with the counselor. NCCA stands for National Christian Counseling Association.
February 4th, 2010 at 8:58 am
Cost should not matter; what matters is that you find someone you can work with. My husband and I went to 2 counselors before we found a 3rd, who we both agreed with. Of course THAT one was not covered by my insurance so it cost a lot. But any price was worth saving my marriage.
February 4th, 2010 at 8:58 am
It doesn’t matter how much they cost as long as both of you are happy with the person doing the counseling. I have gotten great counseling from chaplains as well as trained doctors, I have also received counseling that didn’t fit me and who I am from the same types of professionals
February 4th, 2010 at 8:58 am
I will give you an adress of a couple perfect to counsel you, they have the most amazing marriage that I have only dreamed about for many many lives
February 4th, 2010 at 8:58 am
save your money. if it reaches the point for counseling, you need to save up for the divorce that is coming SOON
February 4th, 2010 at 8:58 am
My husband and I went to counseling and it was the best thing we ever did!! Worth EVERY penny!!
February 4th, 2010 at 8:58 am
My partner and myself go to counseling. Not that there are any issues, but we go to prevent issues. If there is something bothering us, we talk about it, but if we are unable to compromise on it or need ‘assistance’, we wait to talk to our counselor. She’s awesome too. Very helpful. You both must feel comfortable with whoever you choose. I mean, you have to, b/c this person is going to get into your relationship and know the deep down issues that are going on. So you have to be comfortable, both of you. I stress that…lol I definately suggest you going. And our insurance covers it….your insurance if you have any should pay the majority of it, just watch it b/c a lot of insurance companies only authorize so many through the year so check that out too. Good luck.