I’ve been married to my husband for 4 1/2 years. From about after our first year of marriage to our 3 1/2 years of being married we always would fight. We never got along and he would be so rude to me when he talked to me. The ONLY time he would EVER be nice is when he wanted to get a piece. I dont know what to do cause now I’m questioning if I even want to be married anymore. He’s been fine since last july but that is because he has been gone over seas since then so that is the only reason we are doing better now. But I know how he is and he says he’ll change his ways but honestly believe he wont and I dont know what to do.
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February 20th, 2010 at 9:00 am
I would suggest at least trying to get some counseling first before you just jump into a divorce. Does he want to change? Has he tried even a little bit to change? If so then it may at least be worth trying to save your marriage.
February 20th, 2010 at 9:00 am
I wouldn’t do anything as long as he is overseas, When he comes back, you may give it a try and see what happens. The two of you could go to counseling and try to work things out. If this doesn’t work, you will sooner or later began to resent him a lot, and anything you two had between you will die. Then I don’t think you will be able to stay married. and sometimes it is hard to forget cruel words anyway.
February 20th, 2010 at 9:00 am
You need to weigh the pros and cons of your marriage. If the cons outweigh the pros, than it’s time for you to get out of that relationship. It’s not healthy for either party to fight constantly and not seek some kind of counseling. Hopefully, you don’t have any children which will make it easier for you to move on. Good Luck!
February 20th, 2010 at 9:00 am
as of your fighting, me & my wife fight/argue since the the past 2 yrs, but I was told “couples fight to get to know each other more” & to be honest, it’s true-I get to know her more but I try to avoid fights with her…
February 20th, 2010 at 9:00 am
Newsflash, if he’s overseas then he’s surround by foreign women. Women who don’t shove a bunch of attitude down your throat, women who actually care about their appearance.
That’s why he’s not fighting with you, he’s actually happy for the moment.
February 20th, 2010 at 9:00 am
of course it is easy to get along when you are not together. You are not being treated badly day after day. Being together you get disrespect. Only you know if it will be worth the risk of waiting until you are together again.
February 20th, 2010 at 9:00 am
The only thing you can control is you and your actions. If you are not happy get a divorce and move on. So many people look at divorce as being a failure. You should look at as a ticket to happiness. You don’t need his baggage.
February 20th, 2010 at 9:00 am
Why do so many of ya’ll think constant bickering and fighting is normal and healthy?
News flash, its not.
it sounds like you should never have gotten married to begin with.
People don’t change, time to wake up and move on.
February 20th, 2010 at 9:00 am
Of course you know what to do. Get a divorce and start a life, like you should have done 3 years ago.
February 20th, 2010 at 9:00 am
I think you know what to do.
February 20th, 2010 at 9:00 am
No, you two shouldn’t of got married.
February 20th, 2010 at 9:00 am
Do you love him? Does he love you? have a heart to heart not when fighting and find out. maybe he has anger issues and don’t know how to deal with them. do you trust him? if not on what grounds and are they still accountable today?
Everyone is telling you to run. I’m asking you to stay get help and work out your issues. It’s not normal to fight but if every fight ends up in a break up when will both parties work on it. and not to sounds like a hypocrite but if he doesn’t do the same in return then he isn’t pulling his weight and that is when you should lay down your expectations and if they are not met then consider the running options. divorce.
You made a commitment he wasn’t like this when you met him so that tells me he might have issues he never dealt with and if you love him you should help him fix it or at least know about it.
other wise what is the point of marriage if you can just jump right out of it.
February 20th, 2010 at 9:00 am
No this has never happened to me but I can tell you that arguing is a two way street. Why argue over the simple things? It sounds as if the both of you do not communicate. I think the two of you should grow up and talk like to adults instead of bickering like children. Marriage is what you make it. I could come home and start screaming at my husband to help me clean the house and we would be fighting instantly. If I came home and said this house needs cleaning and I am so tired. He would help me.The response you send to your spouse is the same response you are going to receive. So, if you love him try to talk differently and see if you get a different response from him. If you don’t love him , get a divorce and work on your communication skills before getting married again.