Aspirin is not always the cure for the common headache. Counseling usually works when the only purpose is to make the couple communicate their true feelings when its hard to do so by themselves.
Some people make the mistake of believing a ;marriage counselor will bring back the love, the respect and the fidelity in a marriage. These things, if still present, will emerge after the dialog.
Sometimes but rarely. The problem is either that one person wants to fix things so badly that they will do and say anything or promise anything to try to make it work. Which of course only works in the short term and then the original problem resurfaces.OR,both people really want it to work so they deal with the problem but only superficially.”I’m sorry,I’ll change” change however is hard. In my experience it usually ends up with one partner insisting on change while refusing to change themselves and the other resenting it. The only way it really works is if both partners change what isn’t working. Also if there are kids involved they may have to make some changes as well. So it’s really difficult and requires perhaps a deeper commitment then the Original marriage. Also sometimes people do change and they discover they just don’t fit together anymore. So I don’t know . It’s worth a try to save a family but it’s not a miracle.And it may take months to really work. A few meetings almost never helps in the long term at all.
It can work if the individuals involved are willing to work on the issues underlying that got them to this point. The counselor is there to provide support and mediation. Allow the individuals involved to speak up about their feelings and assist them in working through them. Counseling can be a very positive and empowering experience if both individuals are open to the experience.
Of course it can work, but you will only reap the rewards of what you put into it. And you both need to be willing to give forgiveness in earnest. If one of you cheats, counseling may not fix everything, and you may still divorce- but hopefully you will divorce with less bitterness and it will be a healthier mindset for you and your children(if any).
We have been going for about 4 months and I would say it hasn’t made anything worse, maybe a little better. The main thing it did was to keep me from going totally insane. Finally I could feel like there was a professional involved and I wasn’t going to pull my own hair out. (i don’t have that much hair anyways, though)
However, I don’t feel that our core issues have really been solved, or if I even understand any better. So the jury is still out on if the counseling really does anything. So far it seems like just a neutral camp to simmer the pot.
marriage counseling can work small miricles. But, only if both agree that they have problems to get fixed.
try this http://www.focusonthefamily.com
if he admits he has problems with him, and she admits theres problems with her, then it can work. If you are going to go to counseling to get your partner “repaired”, it is a foolish waste of time and money.
as with all counseling it only works if you’re willing to do the work needed and make the changes needed to heal and move forward together. Since there is more than one person involved, if even one of you is unwilling to do that then it won’t work.
it only works if you ..do as your told to .. if not you have wasted all the time and money .in going there ..in the first place .. … my wife and i went and did this .. and we did as we were told and we now take one day a week .. just for us .. … we talk and make plans to just go out even just to the park .. so we have a day just for us ..
Depends on the therapist and the couple. If both partners aren’t 100% comitted to saving the marriage, a whole room full of marriage counselors won’t save it for them.
It can work if both parties will do what the counselor asks them to do. Counselors are not magicians and if either the husband or the wife is unwilling to make changes and do what is asked, then it is futile for them to go.
Marriage counseling will work if both of the people want it to work and make some changes. Otherwise, if you are just going to please your husband or wife, it won’t work.
July 24th, 2009 at 8:59 am
Aspirin is not always the cure for the common headache. Counseling usually works when the only purpose is to make the couple communicate their true feelings when its hard to do so by themselves.
Some people make the mistake of believing a ;marriage counselor will bring back the love, the respect and the fidelity in a marriage. These things, if still present, will emerge after the dialog.
July 24th, 2009 at 8:59 am
Sometimes but rarely. The problem is either that one person wants to fix things so badly that they will do and say anything or promise anything to try to make it work. Which of course only works in the short term and then the original problem resurfaces.OR,both people really want it to work so they deal with the problem but only superficially.”I’m sorry,I’ll change” change however is hard. In my experience it usually ends up with one partner insisting on change while refusing to change themselves and the other resenting it. The only way it really works is if both partners change what isn’t working. Also if there are kids involved they may have to make some changes as well. So it’s really difficult and requires perhaps a deeper commitment then the Original marriage. Also sometimes people do change and they discover they just don’t fit together anymore. So I don’t know . It’s worth a try to save a family but it’s not a miracle.And it may take months to really work. A few meetings almost never helps in the long term at all.
July 24th, 2009 at 8:59 am
It can work if the individuals involved are willing to work on the issues underlying that got them to this point. The counselor is there to provide support and mediation. Allow the individuals involved to speak up about their feelings and assist them in working through them. Counseling can be a very positive and empowering experience if both individuals are open to the experience.
July 24th, 2009 at 8:59 am
Of course it can work, but you will only reap the rewards of what you put into it. And you both need to be willing to give forgiveness in earnest. If one of you cheats, counseling may not fix everything, and you may still divorce- but hopefully you will divorce with less bitterness and it will be a healthier mindset for you and your children(if any).
July 24th, 2009 at 8:59 am
We have been going for about 4 months and I would say it hasn’t made anything worse, maybe a little better. The main thing it did was to keep me from going totally insane. Finally I could feel like there was a professional involved and I wasn’t going to pull my own hair out. (i don’t have that much hair anyways, though)
However, I don’t feel that our core issues have really been solved, or if I even understand any better. So the jury is still out on if the counseling really does anything. So far it seems like just a neutral camp to simmer the pot.
July 24th, 2009 at 8:59 am
marriage counseling can work small miricles. But, only if both agree that they have problems to get fixed.
try this http://www.focusonthefamily.com
if he admits he has problems with him, and she admits theres problems with her, then it can work. If you are going to go to counseling to get your partner “repaired”, it is a foolish waste of time and money.
July 24th, 2009 at 8:59 am
as with all counseling it only works if you’re willing to do the work needed and make the changes needed to heal and move forward together. Since there is more than one person involved, if even one of you is unwilling to do that then it won’t work.
July 24th, 2009 at 8:59 am
it only works if you ..do as your told to .. if not you have wasted all the time and money .in going there ..in the first place .. … my wife and i went and did this .. and we did as we were told and we now take one day a week .. just for us .. … we talk and make plans to just go out even just to the park .. so we have a day just for us ..
July 24th, 2009 at 8:59 am
Depends on the therapist and the couple. If both partners aren’t 100% comitted to saving the marriage, a whole room full of marriage counselors won’t save it for them.
July 24th, 2009 at 8:59 am
It can work if both parties will do what the counselor asks them to do. Counselors are not magicians and if either the husband or the wife is unwilling to make changes and do what is asked, then it is futile for them to go.
July 24th, 2009 at 8:59 am
Marriage counseling will work if both of the people want it to work and make some changes. Otherwise, if you are just going to please your husband or wife, it won’t work.
July 24th, 2009 at 8:59 am
I think it can work for people who are willing to let it work. I also think it can create a dependency on a third party to resolve issues.
July 24th, 2009 at 8:59 am
It works for people who want it to work. If one or both persons have decided it’s over, no amount of counseling will help.
July 24th, 2009 at 8:59 am
Yes it does if have a positive attitude to save ur marriage
July 24th, 2009 at 8:59 am
Yes! It works if you want it to work. Counseling saved my marriage!! It’s nice to have a thrid party to help you with your problems