I spent all of last year pining over a boy with a boyfriend, and the entire summer crushing on a straight girl. Why don’t I have gaydar? I thought gay people evolved gaydar to help them know who to hit on in the bars and stuff! And here I am, in love with a (presumably) straight girl. What are some signs that a girl is gay that I can use in the future to meet bisexual or gay girls? When I’m hanging out with a girl I like, how can I hint to her that I’m interested without being too obvious? And how can I tell if she’s interested too? Help me! I’m lost…
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October 28th, 2009 at 8:55 am
It isn’t so much gaydar as it is “intuition based on stereotypes.” There aren’t really any “signs.” Trust me, I’ve looked, haha. Without asking directly or indirectly, or being told by the other person that they’re gay/bi, it’s not going to be easy to tell unless you develop a close relationship with them. If that happens, you might start noticing little things. Both of you lingering too long while looking at each other or brushing hands, words, conversations, favors, etcetera. If she is a hundred percent straight, though, it’ll all stay platonic, so always try to keep your distance. Without asking directly, it will take a long, long time to tell. If you want to know without asking directly, you could try using a hypothetical situation and get her input on it (my cousin came out as gay/bi/lesbian. Emphasize how you accept it, something like that).
October 28th, 2009 at 8:55 am
well the girl you like that you think is straight might not be straight so go for it and talk to her and tell her that you like her she might like you to and if you dont talk to her you will never know how she feels!!!!!
TALK OT HER!!!!
October 28th, 2009 at 8:55 am
With women it’s tricky sometimes? I’ve found that straight women like to flirt with lesbians, guess they like the attention… but it doesn’t mean they want you! Best bet is to just be honest about yourself, and get to know more about your potential love interests.
October 28th, 2009 at 8:55 am
You should probably get to know people that you could potentially be interested in a little better before you allow yourself to fall in love with them. Try communication, that should be the perfect gaydar.
October 28th, 2009 at 8:55 am
No such thing as gaydar. You can only really discern the obvious ones. I’m gay and I wish I was able to tell who’s gay and who isn’t. Would make my life a whole hell of a lot easier.
October 28th, 2009 at 8:55 am
There’s no such thing as gaydar. It’s based on stereotypes of gay and straight people.
October 28th, 2009 at 8:55 am
**Laughs at You** No such thing as gaydar. Grow Up…
October 28th, 2009 at 8:55 am
if you ask a girl what she thinks of men and says i hope they all burn in hell and she hates penis
and if the guys like oh my god fabulas gross look at her rake
man streotypes r funny