Relationship Advice

Inability to communicate. I say “apple” and he hears “pear”. You’ve heard of women being described as a “drama queen”? Well, my husband is the “King of Drama” and he wants to re-hash any old argument we may have had 10 years ago. Since memories are usually faulty to some degree I tell him “that was then, this is now”. Through counseling we’ve been able to discuss what was bothering him and put it to rest, and he’s agreed NEVER to bring it up again. He sometimes needs “gentle” reminders, though.
However, things are not perfect, as if they ever could be. We had failed with the first counselor we tried. We were getting nowhere so I decided I didn’t need to put up with the constant re-hashing of every little thing he thought wasn’t right and walked out. He was able to get individual counseling which helped him to focus and let go of the past. I have a tendency to just say “oh well” and move on, but he needs justification for everyone else’s every move. We had to learn how to meet somewhere in the middle — the fine art of compromise.