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I’ve known a girl for a month (I had taken her to my prom). Two weeks ago we spent some time together, at her sister’s grad party and at a store. She had shown some signs of liking me such as saying “I’m so glad I’ll get to see you through the whole summer,” touching me in friendly places but frequently, pressing against me while we sat next to each other, and when it seemed like we were headed for her house, telling me that I can see her room. This wasn’t the only time she acted like she liked me, it was just that this time was more obvious. At school two of her friends told me on separate occasions that she likes me. We had a date set for last week to go to the movies, where I was going to tell her I like her.
It turned out (over myspace) she had to go out of town for the whole summer, and she apologized. She had gotten a boyfriend the day I found that out, and I didn’t mind because it’s not like she’s here and we had no prior commitment, especially since I haven’t told her how I feel. Also, I know it’s going to fail because all the boys she dates cheat on her or do something else, or they just tend not to last long. My plan was to take the opportunity to get to know her more while we were apart so we could establish a stronger friendship when she came back in town. We talked over myspace until recently she stopped replying to my messages. We haven’t talked in a week, I have no idea what’s going on, what should I do? If she doesn’t like me anymore, I should have known it was too good to be true. I’m not a thug, I’m not tall, I can’t drive yet, I’m not buff yet (I have a slightly visible six-pack mostly because I’m skinny and my arms are average sized), and I actually care about whoever my current interest is, which no girls today want.
Girls, What’s Going On If You Suddenly Ignore A Boy? (male Answers Wanted Too)?
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November 9th, 2009 at 8:55 am
First things first, stop pointing out your flaws with your apperance. I’m sure you’re a very handsome young man. Obviously she felt the same way because based on what you wrote, she was feeling you.
I read the link to other question. Even though she commented on 2 other male’s pages, do not feel bad. I am not sure what she wrote but it could have been friendship or harmless flirting. I’m sure that she may like you but the fact that she now has someone else, she is doing the faithful girl thing. I’m sure she knows that you like her & doesn’t want to hurt you by not returning the feelings or simply is confused & doesn’t know what to do.
If I were you, I’d pull back. Find something else to focus on. I know that you care but sometimes, the one you care about, can also cause you some pain & you don’t need to subject yourself to this. She has a man, you need to pull back. If things don’t work, trust me, you’ll hear from her again. Just find something else to do, don’t keep sending her notes & reading what she comments on other people’s pages. You seem to have a good heart. Don’t change. You will eventually have these feelings reciprocated back to you.
November 9th, 2009 at 8:55 am
she might be really embarrased still. get to know her better, maybe even become friends with her bf so that she kno’s you really wanna be her friend. she might also still like you, but her bf might not like her talking to you.
good luck to you, you seem like a great guy
November 9th, 2009 at 8:55 am
I like the last part about the caring. You’re not alone that seems to be so true.
Her new boyfriend may have found out and told her to stop and if she likes him then she will. Just take some time off and see other people.
November 9th, 2009 at 8:55 am
you need space and time apart or maybe she just hasnt had time yet to go on myspace, she might even not be able to go on at all
November 9th, 2009 at 8:55 am
Sorry to tell you this, but your on your own. You are not in her radar. You said it yourself, she’s the kind of girl who gets cheated on. I’ve know girls like her. They seem like/are really nice people, but they only seem to be attracted to people who will treat them badly or cheat on them. I’ve even battered my wits against a few girls like that. Take my advice emotionally distance yourself from this woman. You can be friends with her, and help her if you feel its required, but a realtionship with this woman is most likely out of the question. I don’t mean to neigh say this woman, but the reality of the situation is that you’d be back loading a lot of trouble. If you want it and can deal with it, more power to you. Good luck. :-]>
November 9th, 2009 at 8:55 am
they’ve been proposed to by the boy in public, happened with me d00d, and we were something like best friends b4 that
November 9th, 2009 at 8:55 am
Ok first stop putting yourself down. I’m sure you’re a very hot guy. Maybe she hasnt had time to go onto myspace or maybe she’s been away from her computer for a while. If she doesnt respond to your messages within another 3 days or so then stop sending her messages. Just take a break from her and if she does respond anytime soon tell her that you need some space apart. Good Luck!!! =)