My husband is in Iraq and our marriage has hit a rough spot. We need help if we’re going to make this work, and we can’t wait til he’s home. Is there any way we can get counseling online?
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My husband is in Iraq and our marriage has hit a rough spot. We need help if we’re going to make this work, and we can’t wait til he’s home. Is there any way we can get counseling online?
November 16th, 2009 at 9:02 am
It is. But there is some question as to its effectiveness and the ethics of it. Just google it and you’ll come up with tons of results.
I don’t mean to pry, but I would be curious to know what sort of obstacles you’re facing? I am a marriage/fam counselor.
**Even if you can’t get internet counseling together, it sounds like you would benefit from counseling on your own. Believe it or not this can actually wait until he gets back…it sounds like he is willing to work on it by suggesting counseling (RARE for a man) and for you to go to counseling on your own would probably be very beneficial and enlightening to you and will benefit your relationship even if he is not in the sessions with you. When trust is the issue, most counselors will have the person who compromised trust (in this case, your husband) be willing to submit to a series of agreements. (For example, a cheating spouse must cut off all ties with the other man or woman) Obviously I don’t know the whole story, but I’m assuming if your husband is willing to work on your marriage, he will do whatever is needed to fully regain your trust, and counseling will help you get to the root of your trust issues. From there, you can help your husband help you by stopping any inappropriate or compromising behavior. Good luck.**
November 16th, 2009 at 9:02 am
i’ve never heard of it. but there might be something. What might be the most feesable solutions is to email or husband questions and concerns. Then discuss them in person with a counselor. after words you can email the response to your husband and correspond about it. it’s not the ideal solution but it should at least help. on another personal not if you and your husband both promise to stay faithful and try to work it out then it should be okay till he returns.
November 16th, 2009 at 9:02 am
Nick- We have a lot of trust issues. He’s made quite a few mistakes in the past that I’ve forgiven him for, but not forgotten and they still to this day haunt us. It’s not that I don’t trust him at all, I just have a really hard time trusting him fully. He’s really fed up with it and I feel like it’s destroying our marriage. He wanted me to look into internet counseling while he was at work, so that’s what I’m doing.
Brenden- Thank you for the idea
November 16th, 2009 at 9:02 am
I have a problem with internet counseling of any kind. There are so many things that a therapist can observe with an in person session, such as eye contact, body language, voice tones and the dynamic of the relationship (in other words what kind of relationship the couple have).
November 16th, 2009 at 9:02 am
No! Counseling is a personal matter that needs to be addressed in person. You should wait until he gets back. Besides, the last thing he needs while fighting a war is to make sure he is back online at a certain time for counseling. Just wait til he gets back.
November 16th, 2009 at 9:02 am
mine is too and we are hanging on by a thread, he’s even rude to our autistic son on the phone, he has become an animal, i’m ready to call it quits, i got counseling on my own and i stay in church.
November 16th, 2009 at 9:02 am
not really, i wouldnt try that.
November 16th, 2009 at 9:02 am
nop dnt thnk u can