A) Odds are, unless I really, really try, I wouldn’t marry a virgin, so why should she get the so called “honor” that you say comes with being someones first time
B) Willpower is a commodity, and there are better uses for it.
C) It’s in our nature to have sex. I’m 19, peak age anyway.
D) Religion is slowly losing ground. Most teenagers I know are atheists.
E) This whole waiting-advice-thing ****** up my highschool years! Dammit, could have gotten laid that entire god damn time. But noooo, stupid advice anyway…
Why Do Some People Still Stick To The Old Fashioned Advice Of “wait Until Marriage”?
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November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
Because some people respect their bodies and do have strong beliefs. Go ahead and whore yourself around. I’m sure some one will want you when your regretting every thing you did when you were younger.
November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
I’m waiting because I see sex as a beautiful thing to be shared between man and woman, truly in love, open to life.
Something that beautiful shouldn’t be about having to protect yourself
Its in our nature to have sex, yeah. But so is self control. We aren’t animals.
I’m 17 in a few weeks, and Catholic, soo…I’m not one of those teenagers, I guess. My waiting is more a personal decision though, than a religious one.
I’m waiting because I think it is more loving to keep my horniness in check that to do the easy thing. I respect myself and future husband more than that.
November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
its good to wait, becuase sleeping around is not healthy for you physucally and emotionally. Waiting until marriage or until your very serious in a relationship is healthy. You should know someone reall really well before sex. There is AIDs, gonnerhea, syphillis, herpes, pregnancy, complications with abortion, that feeing he used you….its not just religion……….I use to to take care of a girl who was 15 and got AIDS from her first boyfrind, first time, she was a virgin before.
November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
Because I am in my 30’s and was married to a missionary-style only Catholic. Now I’m involved with a man in his 40’s who was quite a “rounder” in is college days, and it hurts DEEPLY to know that he was with dozens of women on an intimate level. It does not matter that he didn’t love them, what matters is that what is between him and me should be ONLY between him and me.
November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
It’s not just the religious purpose, but for the purpose that you will be with this person forever.
And wouldn’t it be fun to take away a girl’s virginity for the first time when she’s married to you? It really is an honor.
November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
I think that in America we have freedom of religion and freedom of choice. Some people believe in this and avoid sexual relations till married and especially with herpes, HIV, and many other contagious diseases like hepatitis C, they are wise to take precautions and not be hasty.
November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
dude it’s good advice, some day you’ll realize. i would be very unhappy to marry someone that had slept with another person, and it saves you from unplanned pregnancies and STD’s and s***.
November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
Because it’s good advice, dude. If you think your high school years were “wasted” because you weren’t getting laid, then I think you need to re-evaluate what exactly it is you’re living for….
November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
Why? Well, why not. Who cares? Is this about someone not wanting to **** you until they’re married? Contrary to our American society, Sex is not the most important in the world……?
November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
people wait until marriage because they might be Catholics.
November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
cos they dont want to be used before they find Mr/Mrs Right. They want to give their LIFE partner the one thing money or anything in this world can get you - your virginity, a special intangible asset
November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
I wish I would have waited instead of giving up my virginity to an asshole.
November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
i think its a good idea because if u get pregnant people wont think your a hoe or something.hope this helps
November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
I agree with you, but What’s your question?
November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
its cause they want to…they are choosing not to conform…as a fan of rock music, you ought to be able to understand that…….you dont have to approve of everything people do (its impossible!!), just accept that they do it. Im sorry if it fu***ked you up….you shouldnt have been pressured into a “chastity pledge” or whatever….that is terrible, it should be voluntary. Where I live, in the UK, chastity pledges are non existent, I have only ever heard of them coming from the USA. I am a Christian, but im not sure if we have to actually WAIT until we are married (I dont really think I believe that, after all, the Bible was written 2000 yrs ago, and there are contradictions in it anyway, you have to decide what FEELS right to you, and I DONT care what anyone says on the matter) as long as you are not letting that person use you, and as long as its a “gift” and you are really really into that person, then I think its OK. No one night stands for me tho, I used to do that, but you know what? people treat you like sh***T once yut get a reputation, whether ur a guy or girl, but more so if ur a girl, like me. That one night stand stuff was like, 8 yrs ago, anyway.
November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
Well for women when you have sex your body releases oxytocin (the love hormone released in orgasm, breastfeeding and birth). Oxytocin makes you feel bonded to the man even if you intended it to be a one night stand or no strings attached relationship. As the man thinks (and the women agreed) that its “no strings attached” she is then often left feeling bonded and in love with someone who doesn’t want her. = lots of pain and heartbreak. Many women therefore prefer the man to show commitment (through marriage) first. Also bonding through sex may cause a women to stay with someone she would have otherwise through unsuitable. And repeated cycling through painful break-ups will make it harder to commit to a man if she dose want to settle down.
For men repeated bad experiences of no strings relationships which then freak them out by the girl turning heavy can make future commitment difficult. They may also not want to treat women like this. They may also end up staying with someone they are having sex with (and may have impregnated) who is unsuitable and whom they may not have chosen without sex clouding the issue.
Also it is irresponsible to risk bringing children into the world when you are not ready or in a stable relationship to care for them.
Also:
B) willpower is not finite. The more you practice using it the more you will have.
E) Why to you wish you spent highschool abusing underage girls? Would having caused a string of broken hearts and children with child mother have improved your life?
Plus what everyone else said regarding making sex special and lowering the risk of diseases.
November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
I agree with you on all your points mostly except for the last one. I’m not married, but I am with someone I love very much. I had sex before him and I regret it to this day. I feel like damaged goods and I don’t think I’ll recover from that sometime soon. What I’m trying to say, is not that I wish I had been married to wait, but had waited until I was with someone I loved and loved me back.
In answer to your question, I think people stay virgins until marriage to please their families- or avoid beatings if they
were found out to be having sex, or being kicked out. Also, some may wait because they just don’t want to deal with the hassle of a pregnancy scare.
Oh, and a comment on Tina’s answer, yes, we are animals. Humans are animals; we may be smarter and more civilized, but when it comes down to it, people are animals.