I went to at least 7 different marriage counselors over the course of 18 years with my ex-wife. It helped a bit temporarily, but basically prolonged a miserable marriage and postponed the divorce that eventually made me happy.
The worst ones at least know how to teach communication skills, even if they get everything else wrong. The best ones are clinical psychologists who can pick up on the issues and how to best resolve them, who know how to come across as evenhanded, where that’s possible and warranted, and who you’re simpatico with.
The way it works is that it requires both of you to work on the relationship. In my case, it was only me, and I eventually gave up.
Anybody Ever Been To Marriage Counseling And How Did It Work?
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November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
I have been to marriage counseling, when you go to counseling they will give you the tools that you need to help with communication in your relationship. They will give you both an opportunity to express what you feel the problems are in your relationship, and from there they will give you advice, tools, suggestions and activities to help you reach a common goal. You both have to be willing to be open and honest to get the best results. Sometimes it hurts to be completely honest but its the only way to have a successful relationship. Sometimes after going to counseling for awhile you find that you are better off as friends but either way work at it and if you decide to leave make sure there are no ill feelings toward you spouse.
November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
Yes my wife and I had very different sex drives and I was tired of wanting it twice a week and only getting it every other month. I finally got her to go to see a marriage counselor and when I explained that I wanted sex twice a week the counselor immediately took the wifes side. Needless to say the divorce will be final in a few weeks I am living single again and happy as can be. So yes counselors can be excellent help
November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
Yes my wife and I went through pre-marital counselling and it helped alot it really let us know that we were meant for each other. We have not had to do the whole marriage counselling but I know many people who would say they help greatly. I would however express some prayer counselling or even just speaking to a good pastor and seeking God would help more.
November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
Trying to get my wife to go with me now for we are in trouble. Problem is, she takes no responsibilty for the problems in our relationship. All I have to say is, it takes two!
November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
Yes, been there, done that. The doctors always side with the spouse that is bltching the most. Even if the grounds are stupid, they will take their side. Counseling almost never works.
November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
Yes and it helped put things into perspective. There are good and bad counselors. You must be honest with them too.
November 18th, 2009 at 9:02 am
It worked for Nathan and Haley on One Tree Hill.