Love Relationship

This is one of the most touching stories I ever remember. I just get to read it again today and wish to share it to everyone:

There’s a woman name Cloud which is a very special name. Her husband is an IT person. She loves her husband because he is a very honest and grounded person. After years of relationship and marriage, she started to feel bored. The main reasons she loves him have now became the main reasons that bored her.

Cloud is an emotional and sensitive woman. She desire romance and desire to be wanted and loved by someone. But he (her husband) is not born with a pair of sweet lips. He doesn’t know how to create romance and often logical.

One day, Cloud take up her courage and ask for a breakup.

“Why?” her husband asked.

“Just bored!” Cloud answered him.

Her husband spends the whole night smoking. Cloud thought her husband will try his best to ask her to stay and will say something he will never say in his life. But her husband continue smoking and she starts to feel disappointed.

“What kind of man is this? He don’t even know how to ask a woman to stay with him. How can I be happy when I’m being with him?” She thought.

“What can I do to make you stay?” Her husband ask in a slow and calm manner.

Cloud look into his eyes and start to reply him slowly “Answer me a question. If the answer touch my heart then I’ll stay. Under what kind of circumstances will you die to get what I want? If I love a rose on the cliff, will you pick it for me even you are going to die 100% when you do that?”

“I’ll give you an answer tomorrow. Go to bed early!” He still answered with the same calm and slow manner which makes Cloud angrier with him.

The next morning, Cloud notice her husband is not home. (She expects to have an answer from him early morning but he is not here!) But there is a hot milk prepared by him with a letter beside the bed. The letter is full of words:

“My dear, I won’t pick that flower under normal circumstances. I have my reasons:

You know how to type with the computer, but cry often by messing up the formulas. I want to keep my hand for your work.

You always forget your key at home when you are going out. I want to keep my leg to come back and open the door for you.

You love to travel and always lost in the city. I want to keep my eyes to guide you home.

You get cold at home. I want to keep my body to warm you up.

You don’t like outdoor activities. I want to keep my mouth to get rid your loneliness when you are at home.

Your eyes are not very good because you always spend long time on your computer. I want to live long enough to cut your nails when you are old, pull away the white hair that annoys you, hold your hand at the beach so that you can enjoy the sun shine and the sand, tell you how beautiful you are like a flower.

So, I won’t pick the flower if I am not sure there is no one loves you more than I do. I’ll do it unless without that flower you will die.

I know I’ve bored you until a point you can’t accept me. I bought you some roses and I’m waiting outside the door. If you forgive me, please open the door for me.”

Cloud rushed to the door and opened it. Her husband is standing there with the roses he promised and with a nervous look on his face. Her eyes started to turn wet. She hugged him so tight like she is not letting him go for the rest of her life.

The end.

I spent more than 1 hour just to rewrite it. By writing it, I experience the beauty of love and the beauty of being human. Hope everyone enjoy it.

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Do you know how romance in marriage tends to take a backseat to juggling daily responsibilities such as jobs, kids, and household chores? You may feel that you are doing goods just to remember to do something for special occasions like Valentine’s Day or your anniversary.

Romance is no longer important, right? You can still have a solid marriage without it. However, romance is to a relationship what dessert is to a meal. Both are sweet and satisfying and can turn the ordinary into the extraordinary.

Here are five rules to jog your memory about how to be romantic:

Romance Rule #1: Repetition Reduces Romance

I know a man who gave his wife perfume one year for Christmas, and she loved it. It was a romantic gift. So every year he gave his wife the same gift. After 15 years, it was a routine and no longer romantic.

Romance Rule #2: True Romance Comes From Relationship

The most romantic gifts are the ones that tell your spouse that you intimately know his or her tastes, wants, and desires. Pay attention to what your spouse talks about and constantly look for romantic ideas.

Romance Rule # 3: Little Things Count

Romance can be as simple as a Hershey’s kiss or a coupon for a back rub. Don’t forget about the little things.

Romance Rule # 4: Sometimes Romance is Extravagant

Sometimes splurging for your mate lets them know how special they are to you. Spending money to romance your spouse is cheaper than a divorce or paying child support.

Bringing home a single rose can say, “I thought about you today.” On the other hand, a bunch of roses says, “I love you a bunch and you are priceless.” So don’t be afraid to invest in romance; you will receive great interest on that investment.

Romance rule #5: Romance Requires Planning

Don’t wait until the last minute to buy a gift or try to think of something romantic to do. It will be obvious that you did not put much thought or effort into the gift.

“Just do it” (Nike Commercial)

Romance is just one way to let your spouse know how much you love and value them. Sometimes it is easy to take him/her for granted and quit expressing your appreciation for them.

Forgetting about romance is just one mistake that couples make. When you are ready to know more about preventing common relationship mistakes, I’d like to offer you free access to a 5-day e-course, “Five Barriers to Building a Dream Marriage” at http://www.BuildingYourDreamMarriage.com.

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Good luck in Building Your Dream Marriage - from Jeff and Laurel Barnet

Laurel and her husband, Jeff Barnet, have written several e-books and e-courses to help couples improve their sex life, emotional intimacy, communication skills and marital relationships.

These resources include: “Daytime Parents and Nighttime Lovers: Secrets to Sensational Sex After Having Kids”, “Ten Things Couples Do to Screw Up Their Marriages”, and more.

by Jeff and Laurel Barnet

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Eddie Corbano: 7 Golden Relationship Tips From Our Grandparents

You will never guess where I have been a few weeks ago.

A very good friend of mine asked me to accompany her to her grandparents. She didn’t want to go alone, because their place was “a little weird”. I didn’t quite understand what she meant, but I said yes.

It turned out that “their place” was a retirement home. I immediately had a picture in my mind: a mixture of “One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest” and the “Simpsons-Grandpa-Retirement-Surrounding”, where old people sleepwalk through rotten corridors, aimless and under medication like zombies.

It turned out I was wrong. Terribly wrong.

What I found was some kind of paradise on earth. It was a vast compound with cottages, golf courses, outdoor restaurants, swimming pools, you name it. All in all: a tropical island paradise. Not bad for retirement, isn’t it?

The pensioners behaved more like teenagers than senior citizens. They laughed, giggled, played around, having fun. Weird indeed.

While my friend talked to her grandparents, I was sitting on a rocking chair enjoying the view, when a stunning looking 73-year old lady approached me:

“What is such a cute guy doing alone at this place?”

The classic of all pick up lines.

After 5 seconds shock-state I replied:

“… looking out for new grazing land.”

Just when I thought I was too bold we’ve started the most wonderful and interesting conversation I’ve had for years.

Her name was Louise and after a while of talking, I told her that I was a relationship coach and was helping people having healthy relationships. She then proclaimed proudly that she had been married happily for nearly 53 years and that she had the ultimate relationship tips for me.

By that time more and more of her friends surrounded us and before I realized what happened, they offered me all together on a silver plate their ultimate personal 7 relationship tips.

Of course, I want to share them with you and here they are,

The 7 Golden Relationship Tips From Our Grandparents:

1. Always talk with your partner about your problems
2. Take care of each other and respect each other
3. Spend time with each other, but don’t forget to take time for yourself
4. Learn to cook delicious meals
5. Know and respect the differences between you
6. Be patient and always try to compromise
7. Always do his laundries

I bet you assume I’ve put the last one in myself. Nooo… I haven’t. That was a real relationship tip from a likeable 68-year old grandma. Believe it or not.

That’s it. You have to decide for yourself what you find useful and what was maybe useful 50 years ago. I don’t judge. But some little advice from me: What was a useful relationship advice 2000 years ago, still is today.

Except for stoning to death your wife for unfaithfulness… I guess.

All the best,

Eddie Corbano

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Why are there challenges in marriage?

In every marriage there are times when the partners are tested and required to stop and re-define their relationship, to look and see what is going on, decide what it is they need from one another and what it is that they can or will provide. This is a process that one may have to go through many times during the course of a long relationship. In this article we will look at some of the basic dangers to a marriage, why they occur and ways of handling them.

Handling Change Itself

Before we deal with specific trouble spots, it is crucial to understand that the central factor which causes difficulty for many is change itself. Many do not realize that as time goes by people change, circumstances alter, (children are born, jobs change, family members may become ill or pass away, it may become necessary to move to another part of the country). New stresses appear and with them old, unfulfilled wishes may come to the surface. Parts of an individual that have not been expressed in the past may emerge and require expression now.

This can be frightening when it happens. One can feel as though the balance of the relationship is being altered and threatened, that which you depended upon may be shifting.

Hande it without blaming

The first thing to realize when this starts to happen, is that change is natural and inevitable. It does not mean that love is gone. This is not a time for blaming the other or feeling rejected because your partner is going through change. This is a time for creating an environment in which communication will thrive.

Build the communication

Tell you partner that you understand that change is natural and that as it is affecting both of you, you want to be a part of it. When you stay in communication fears and fantasies about what is going on do not develop. If you offer understanding and acceptance in the communication process and you cannot go wrong.

You’ll get something good from it!

Instead the marriage is strengthened and the bond between you deepened. True security in a relationship comes with the ability to accept change, to communicate about it and find a new equilibrium that suits both of them.

Threats To A Marriage- Infidelity

Infidelity and the threat of it, is the largest single issue that threatens marriages. If the partner has actually been unfaithful, and even if there is a suggestion of real interest in another, the marriage automatically goes into a crisis mode. A basis of all marriages is the ability to trust. It is not only the sexual betrayal but the fact of having been lied to that is so devastating. This break of trust not only takes time, patience and wisdom to repair, but it is absolutely necessary to understand, acknowledge and discuss what caused it to take place.

The cause of infidelity

It is also necessary to build the relationship upon future honesty and open communication once again. Often infidelity arises because certain needs in a marriage have not been met. Other times is arises as an act of resentment against the partner, or as a desire for freedom and adventure. Sometimes there are issues in the individual or in the relationship which have not been dealt with and which have simply festered.

What to do?

Rather than deal with them directly, the person then escapes the entire situation by getting involved with someone else. Whether or not you stay in the relationship after the infidelity happens, it is necessary to uncover the true causes of it, on both sides. The question often comes whether or not it is possible to repair the broken trust and go forward in the marriage after infidelity. The truth is that if both individuals are willing to confront the issues that caused the infidelity,, to open communication, to be honest and respectful of one another and to be patient, then the marriage can emerge even stronger than before.

There’s no immediate fix and easy way to overcome

However, this takes time, patience and commitment and the realization that feelings of betrayal and suspiciousness may continue to go on for awhile. When they appear, it is necessary to address them and to give and receive the reassurance needed once again. It is also necessary to create firm boundaries in the relationship that are adhered to and respected by both individuals.

Blaming the self or blaming the other is never helpful and leads nowhere. Acceptance, communication and understanding, however, always go a long way. Needless to say, both must be willing to work on this together. If the partner is not willing to deal with it, then the other partner should seek help for themselves in making constructive choices for her own life. All marriages go through challenges. Whether these challenges destroy your relationship or make it stronger, is up to both of you. It takes two to make this commitment, however. One person cannot do it alone.

About the author

Men tell in their own words why they left relationships, what went wrong, in Dr Shoshanna’s top e-book Why Men Leave. Save your marriage and learn how to build a relationship that really works. Download now at http://www.whymenleave.com . Psychologist, award winning relationship expert and speaker has helped thousands. Free ezine and articles http://www.brendashoshanna.com . topspeaker@yahoo.com

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