Love Relationship

Understand why arguments appear.

Do you know why arguments happen?

“Different point of view!” This is the most popular and one of the biggest lies.

Different point of view won’t create argument. When both accept each other point of views and choose either one will not have any argument. When both compromise, there are no arguments. When both get that they are different and do what they think is right but still love each other will not have arguments too.

Many people who break up or argued blame everything to “point of views”. The 3 example I showed you have no arguments even they have different point of views. Arguments arise because you and they don’t get the answer which you or they want. When you or they don’t get the answer which is expected, you or they get upset and angry.

Start to accept.

You need to ask yourself this question first. Do you want this relationship to work out? If you want it to work out, you need to stop trying to get the answer you want. You and him or her are from different background, different family and different experience. You need to choose this funny question “You want the relationship or you want their answer to be what you want?” 

It’s a funny question but also a question most people will choose to get the answer that they want. Choose which one you want and your relationship will work out. You will hardly get into arguments when you are not trying to get answers that you want.

Understand them.

When you or they started the argument, think in their shoes. See what they are actually arguing about. Most people are arguing about a topic but actually they are actually mentioning about another topic. Mostly, they are just trying to say that you don’t appreciate what they did or you are not giving enough love for them.