Relationship Advice

I would like to know what are some good gift ideas for my boyfriend since he is a father. he is into u2 and spiderman. or what are some romantic things that we can do on that day? we live in chicago

I have been married for two years. I love my husband very much. He has been physically abusive since four months after we got married. I know i’m not easy to live with, but i don’t physically hurt him in any way. Their is no cheating going on between us. My husband is like a teddy bear most of the time, but he exploads when arguments get heated. He hits me every week, and its just getting worse and worse. He always says he is sorry, and has agreed to take anger managment classes. We are going to start marriage counseling, but this has been going on for nearly two years. Should I call it quits or should i try and stay.

I really like this boy in one of my classes and i want to get to know him better but i am afraid of getting turned down and i dont even know how to ask. he is in only one of my classes and his two best friends are in that class too so i dont want to ask when he is with them. how do i get to just flirt and talk to him alone. what signs could tell me that he is interested in me? any tips on how to ask if he wants to hang? thnks

My husband and I are going to be in Rome for his 30th b’day. We stay in London and I want to get flowers and cake delivered to the hotel. I can’t find anything on the net. Can you help me in finding a website or give a good bakery’s name and suggest a florist for flowerdelivery. Thanks!
I also want to give him 30 gifts for his 30th and need lots of ideas. Any help?!!
CAn u also suggest a good romantic restaurant for dinner?

My husband and I are going to be in Rome for his 30th b’day. We stay in London and I want to get flowers and cake delivered to the hotel. I can’t find anything on the net. Can you help me in finding a website or give a good bakery’s name and suggest a florist for flowerdelivery. Thanks!
I also want to give him 30 gifts for his 30th and need lots of ideas. Any help?!!
CAn u also suggest a good romantic restaurant for dinner?

Yes, I am that desperate. I have been married for seven years. Not once, has he remembered our anniversary, my birthday, or anything. we have three kids, whom I love dearly and their the reason I stay. The oldest is 6 and my youngest is 15 months with a seizure disorder. He uses tells me “I only married you because you were pregnant.” The other day, I found the following searches, our city dates, our city companions, wells, nevada prostitutes. He says he just goes to look at the girls, but, it makes me not trust him.I have tried to get him into counsling to no avail. Problem is, he doesn want the responsibilitys of being married, just all the control. He is also an over hte roader if that matters. I just need any advice. I get back in his face, he walks out, I shut up and hes in my face. whats going on here??

I am a Taurus girl and I have 4 Scorpio friends - 2 girls and 2 boys and about the ways we talk or interact they all are too much different so that I can’t make conclusions from one’s reactions and apply to another friend of the same zodiac sign. So about that girl, she is polite with me, but actually we have just general random talk, sometimes we disagree, then we talk really more but at the other time when everything is going on alright we exchange word or two. Sometimes she is good at giving advices but sometimes when I tell her something she answers with ‘alright’ and I am worried if she finds our friendship has worn off? How to understand if it so and what to do for our friendship to be interesting and with more talk and sharing of stuff? I care for all the friends I have and I usually want to have the same friends for a life time.

I am in love with my boyfriend, we have been dating for 3 months. We never had sex, because he knows that I am not ready and he respects me for that. He is a great guy. Anyways I think it’s time to show him that he means a lot to me. So Here’s my idea on valentine’s day: go to a very nice romantic and nice dinner, go to his office, give him a massage, play the “drinking game” with him and then have sex that night.
What have your girlfriend done to you that was nice?
Ladies what were some romantic things that you did to your man?
Also I can spend $500 on anything (places or gifts) but we could only spend 6 hours the most together, coz he got work the next time.
stories and ideas are greatly appreciated.
Thanks in Advance

I am in love with my boyfriend, we have been dating for 3 months. We never had sex, because he knows that I am not ready and he respects me for that. He is a great guy. Anyways I think it’s time to show him that he means a lot to me. So Here’s my idea on valentine’s day: go to a very nice romantic and nice dinner, go to his office, give him a massage, play the “drinking game” with him and then have sex that night.
What have your girlfriend done to you that was nice?
Ladies what were some romantic things that you did to your man?
Also I can spend $500 on anything (places or gifts) but we could only spend 6 hours the most together, coz he got work the next time.
stories and ideas are greatly appreciated.
Thanks in Advance

Please only answer if you are a Christian. My husband has been addicted to pornography for over a decade and we have been married for a year and a half. He has not stopped pornography at all since we have been married. When I say pornography I mean DVDs, internet, meeting people online cyber sex, chat rooms etc. I don’t think he has ever met anyone in real life although Im not sure about it. The other day I made a fake facebook account and sent him messages and he responded within a minute. I’m worried because in some of the chat rooms Im not sure if he’s talking to girls that are of age yet. Also, my first laptop crashed because of a virus from porn that he put on it and i was so upset because the laptop was a graduation gift from my parents. We’ve also had huge phone bills at times from when he does stuff on the phone instead of online or a movie. This affects our sex life and our marriage in general tremendously. I just can’t have sex with him after I find out about it, at least for a day or two. Although he recognizes it as sin, he really has no intention of quitting. He says he does but he always says it will probably keep happening, and that he wishes he could go back and not marry me since i have such a problem with it. He will not go to counseling or talk to one of our pastors about it. He also doesn’t want me to speak to someone alone. Is this considered adultery? Do I have biblical grounds to divorce him? I really want out of this marriage but I have never believed in divorce unless it would be acceptable in God’s eyes.

So, there is a boy and a girl. Let’s say Jason and Molly. So, Jason and Molly went to the same middle school, but during middle school while having seen each other around school, didn’t really talk. At the end of middle school on a class trip, Jason splashes Molly & the group of friends she is with. That gets Molly to notice him. So, the summer passes.
Then, freshman year comes. For the first month of school, Molly doesn’t notice Jason at all. After starting to hang out with a new group of friends, Molly and Jason start to meet eyes. This happens a lot. Molly will often find Jason looking at her. But, they have no classes together and they don’t talk. All Jason does is look. He seems like a pretty shy guy.
This goes on for a while. But then, before a school break, Jason shows sign of interest in Molly. His friend looks at Molly then at Jason, and pushes Jason playfully into a locker. Jason laughs and doesn’t do anything back. He just looks at Molly, possibly to see if she had just seen that. This happens twice.
Also, Jason acts as if he is going to come talk to Molly, like he walks halfway but then goes back.
After break, Molly’s stupid friend goes up to Jason and tells him that Molly likes him. Jason smiles and asks really? but gives no straight answer as if he likes her back or not.
Also, Molly’s stupid friend let all his friends no and his ex, so they were all talking and answering for him at the same time. Molly’s friend asks Jason what he wants to tell Molly but he doesn’t say a word. All the while, Jason keeps silent.
Molly assumes Jason doesn’t like her and tries to move on. About 2-3 months have passed. And during those months, it seems as if Jason and Molly have both moved on. Recently, it seems that Jason has been looking at Molly again. But Molly, who still likes Jason, is being careful, and not looking at him, giving no sign that she still likes him.
What do Jason’s actions mean?
What do Molly’s actions mean?
What should Molly do?
What should Jason do?
This question is for two people I know who are going through this. I wanna give them advice.

My husband and I are going to be in Rome for his 30th b’day. We stay in London and I want to get flowers and cake delivered to the hotel. I can’t find anything on the net. Can you help me in finding a website or give a good bakery’s name and suggest a florist for flowerdelivery. Thanks!
I also want to give him 30 gifts for his 30th and need lots of ideas. Any help?!!
CAn u also suggest a good romantic restaurant for dinner?

Well, I think if you are asking there must be a problem… If you are not interested in becoming a statistic for divorce rates maybe you ought to try marriage counseling first… sometimes all it takes is a changce to get your feelings out and learn some new techniques for goodcommunication! Good Luck!

Because i need to know because i am graduating soon and i need to make a decision asap and if you can also tell me how long it will take for a master in that program and a PhD too thanks a lot.

hi,first thanks for reading,i am a 39 year old lady with 4 big children ages 22,21,20.14 and a 12 yr old step daughter only the youngest 2 live with me.i met my husband in 2006 everything was great and in 2007 his then 9 year old daughter came to live with us everything continued to be ok,then in 2008 we decided to marry,we had a lovely wedding and catered for both families as i am a white lady and my hubby is a black man,after we married we decided we wanted try for a baby so we went to a private clinic and i had a sterilisation reversal done in may 2009,in july 2009 i had a ectopic pregnancy and one of my tubes removed,after this i noticed a change in my hubby and i found out he had been advertising himself on dating sites,when i confronted him he told me he never intended to go behind my back he just needed someone to talk to although i didnt believe him we madi it up.in october i got pregnant again but unfotuatly another ectpic and my other tube removed,at this stage i was gutted and felt a failure to my husband and was scared due to the last time it happened he went on dating sites,eventually we sat and talked and are supposed to be saving for ivf,my husband was made redundant last year in february and as found a new job this week,at the moment my 14 year old daughter is playing up at school and at home and today he sent me a text sayin that when my kid are naughty they get away with it but when his daughter is naughty she gets punished and he is sick of it,he also suggests that i buy my daughters clothes and sort her out and he will sort hisown daughter out,ever since his daughter came to live with me i have put up with hell,when she first come live with us it was because her mum disowned her for making a allergation to the police that wasnt true about her mum and her mums partner,then over the past couple of years shes been in trouble at school,theiving,telling continous lies.ive found my pictures in her bedroom ripped up when she carnt have her way but ive put up with all this and seen it through on my own and now shes calmed down her dad sees that only my child is the only problem. i feel so upset and dont know what to do when i ask him do you think we should get a divorce as we always arguing he tells me do whatever i want and thats the answer to most questions when i ask or he says its up to you,so then i forget i ever mentioned divorce,i feel stuck as i dont mix with anyone i just stay home and look after the kids ,cook and keep the house clean also my 5 year old grandaughter lives with me and as done for the past 15 months due to problemssi see myself as a good mum and all my hubby says is i need to change but i carnt see why or where all i can see is he is in the wrong,hes just a greedy selfish man.advice please xxx

ok the guy i like(he might like me back) talks to any other girl and my sister fine, but when it comes to me….hardly anything.
we had hardly talked before our 1st date. and then he asked me to homecoming. and we still barely talk. is it us being nervous? or is it that he doesnt like me like that? sometimes when my guy friends are being stupid and teasing me he will tell them to knock it off, but he looks at me sometimes, and most of the time it seems like he is kinda ignoring me. cuz when i am right there and so is my sister, he will say something to her, and I just stand there, but when he says something funny to my sister he looks at me. if anyone has any idea what this boy is thinking that would be great.
my best friend is his friend, and he talks to her more than me. he talks to every girl more than me. i think we wanna talk to each other we just dont know how. @ Homecoming the end of the last song he spun me out & spun me into this half hug where he put his arm around me

Like thats gonna make me love or like my husband? Besides to me marriage is just an ancient ritual thats mostly just a piece of paper that enslaves women to be a mans property.

He is not romantic, its not a b-day gift, Its a comming back gift since we dont live in the same country. We’ve been together for a really long time, about a year. I need ideas please. No perfumes, or romantic stuff.

Please answer ONLY if you have gone through marriage counseling. Did it work for you? Are you still married? What was your opinion?
(btw, I am just really curious about this topic, I am doing Pre-marital counseling, so this does not yet apply to me.)

ok the guy i like(he might like me back) talks to any other girl and my sister fine, but when it comes to me….hardly anything.
we had hardly talked before our 1st date. and then he asked me to homecoming. and we still barely talk. is it us being nervous? or is it that he doesnt like me like that? sometimes when my guy friends are being stupid and teasing me he will tell them to knock it off, but he looks at me sometimes, and most of the time it seems like he is kinda ignoring me. cuz when i am right there and so is my sister, he will say something to her, and I just stand there, but when he says something funny to my sister he looks at me. if anyone has any idea what this boy is thinking that would be great.
my best friend is his friend, and he talks to her more than me. he talks to every girl more than me. i think we wanna talk to each other we just dont know how. @ Homecoming the end of the last song he spun me out & spun me into this half hug where he put his arm around me

She’s 27, I’ve been wanting to tell her that I like her for a couple month’s but always chicken out. Her birthday is tommorrow and I am going to her birthday party.
I would like to give her something kind of romantic, but not something too creepy obviously. Does anyone have any good idea’s? If I can’t find anything my fall back will probably be a gift card, but I’d like to avoid that if possible. We are friends already, obviously since I’m going to her party. I will likely browse the mall for something unless I get a really good idea.
Thanks everyone

has not helped us like we thought it would. He’s been emotionally abusive in the past but it’s gotten better, but I’m weary to move forward and have kids with this man. He didn’t even spend Christmas with me this year. Has anyone else ever been in this situation - where you have a little hope left to mend things but don’t know if it’s worth it? What did you do?

Okay so in about a little over a month it will be my three year anniversary with my boyfriend..Im a senior and hes in his second year of college so hes just going to be coming up for a night to celebrate…So we both agree that we want our gifts to be something personal, not based on money…he usually does super good with my gifts, last year he had rose petals lead me to a vase of flowers and a neclace from zales with a letter….now I know hes planning something for this year but i still want to get him something romantic that comes from my heart…he likes football, the outdoors, me, ( lol ) and hes already got an ipod and things like that so any idea that includes that please dont write! But hmmm…yes i just need some ideas, hopefully it gets my brain flowing a bt! Thanks

I was considering going with my husband but I’m a little afraid to. Has anyone here ever been? And do they just try to blame one person on the martial prolbems or are they completely unbiased? Because I have a bad feeling they will try to blame me even though it’s not completely my fault what’s going on. Do they talk to the couple individually or just togehter? Does anyone know please give me some insite on what to expect.

Hi everyone, I’m a Y!A lurker but I finally decided to cave in & join
Basically, to introduce myself: I’m 21 yrs old & I’m about to graduate university in May. I plan on teaching ELA (English Language Arts) & will be certified at the grades 4-8 level. I don’t know if any of you know this but a good friend of mine & I (she’s female too) were discussing marriage in the Black community. She is a Business major & is going to Law school right afterwards, she is very career-oriented & I am very family-oriented.
I want to marry & have children, & she would rather adopt 1 child & travel the world. At the same time, she has more world experience than I do (she’s been all over). My parents are immigrants from Trinidad & are pretty traditional for the most part.
I’ve dated many guys before, & many of these guys haven’t been black. Not that that is a huge issue, but I have not yet had a serious relationship. It’s just that one of my biggest fears is being a part of that unmarried black woman statistic. I mean, I will be teaching, I’m very friendly, reserved (at first), love to have fun, & I’m a very simple girl. I’ve had men dangle money at me before but I refused taking money from them…
Can anyone offer any words of encouragement??
this is what I look like in case you were curious:http://i254.photobucket.com/albums/hh117…